Minh va ban wa cung wen nhau 1 thoi gian nen gio quyet dinh lam dam cuoi, nhung ban gai of minh muon sau khi cuoi....

1) Add her name into my bank account with debit card so she can withdraw the money and spent whatever she wants.

2) She wants to keep her own account just under her name.

3) She wants me to pay for rent and all the bills

4) She just pays for food.

Yes, i do love her but sometimes she makes me think alot of how she's treating me.

Please give me some advice. Once again, thank you very much.

Should i marry a girl like that?

AvaE

From what you've written it seems you already know the answer to your question, and you'll probably find that most people in this forum will give you the support you're looking for.

What I will ask is that you tell her how you feel and give her a chance to respond before making any decisions.

Good luck!

So, does she want to sleep out on the porch with her own set of candles? Unless she agrees to that, then you can pay rent and utilities by yourself. She could come into the house to cook and eat with you. Afterall, you're not her provider. You're her partner in life. If the rope is lopsided, then you should think about getting out of the boat, unless you can swim well.

About the rest of the money issue, may I suggest opening a joint account and both of you put money in there for spendings you two share (say 50% of your incomes go in here), while each of you have you own separate accounts for yourselves (the other 50% of your incomes.) Don't forget to set out money for KIDS and retirement. Better work out your financial issues now before you sign that marriage paper.

I wouldn't ...she seems greedy. You two shouldn't be married if you can't use the word "OUR", not hers, yours and mine!

You are not happy now then you won't be later either.

Is she marrying money or you? Too many she wants this, she wants that. I see red flags with this woman.

Why dont both of you keep your own accounts, then create a joint account under both your names and agree on how much you would contribute to the joint account (for example 80 %)and the rest (20 %) to your private accounts for your personal gifts and spending?

Hope this will help.

G

[QUOTE=ThenNnow;9231549]I wouldn't ...she seems greedy. You two shouldn't be married if you can't use the word "OUR", not hers, yours and mine!

You are not happy now then you won't be later either.[/QUOTE]

Agreed with your say .
If she is not
You should run away from her .

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Let her go so she can find a sugar daddy to marry.

Aiselaem,

The difference between your girlfriend and the next girl you meet is that she is foolishly vocal... Husbands are often expected to cough up for the mortgage, utility bills, cable bill, car insurance, dog vaccinations and the weekly facial plus mani-pedi. The fine prints are all there on that package of ...erh... faulty Trojan. However, expectations mean little when they can't be delivered... You should really worry if you're listed with Forbes... If that is the case, a prenup is a beautiful document.

Since she offered to pay for food... it might feel better if you eat well. Shark fin, caviar, kobe beef, lobster... Go all out.

Good luck to you.

You need a separate account for the stripper college fund. What does she need one for?

[QUOTE=Aiselaem?;9230837]Minh va ban wa cung wen nhau 1 thoi gian nen gio quyet dinh lam dam cuoi, nhung ban gai of minh muon sau khi cuoi....

1) Add her name into my bank account with debit card so she can withdraw the money and spent whatever she wants.

2) She wants to keep her own account just under her name.

3) She wants me to pay for rent and all the bills

4) She just pays for food.

Yes, i do love her but sometimes she makes me think alot of how she's treating me.

Please give me some advice. Once again, thank you very much.

Should i marry a girl like that?

AvaE[/QUOTE]

She is greedy, I would not do that to my future husband.
Greedy people make you lost everything. When you had joint account, and share equal. If she don't want do then dont married her, it only last your relationship less period of time and argument , flight alot about money all the time. let her go, and look for someone who agree to put in joint account and share everything together. In relationship each person need compromise, understand, that is not fair for her to do. I love someone and I put my life for less to let him going more blessing gift from god.

Here is my suggestion:
1. Create another bank account and put the minimum required amount in there. And your main account is for the bills and rent.
2. fine. she can keep her own account.
3. If you can afford to get married, this is fine too. get a cheap azz apartment.
4. Eat expensive stuffs; lobsters, steak, seafood. Make sure you do the cooking to avoid poisoning.


You guys are very young to consider to marry.
I think she just testing you.

let me tell you everything about something I know nothing about. girls who can cook think they're entitled to all that shiet but in truth, its the ones with an azz that needs it more, doing all that a$$ excercise is labor intensive and its something you and i cant possibly do. sure, its nice to eat a wholesome meal everyday but they're absolutely useless outside of a kitchen, it can be frustrating at times. so, if she's the cooking type just give her a blender to tinker with and she'll be happy. on the contrary, if you're lucky enough to be blessed with a girl who can cook AND a nice behind, start thanking your god and offer human sacrifices. get yourself as many jobs as it takes to please her spending needs. one bank account isnt enough, she deserve more than that, like 5. anyways, check this out man, i was shopping at 7-11 the other day and you wouldnt believe what i saw. my jaw dropped and i was speechless, it was too good to be true. their donuts were 50% off for the first time ever!! my day went from somebody kill me quick to Fck Yeah!!!

hope i've helped.

How her personal she like shopping? You need get away from her
She know how buy on sale, use coupon ,, Maybe she test you for her love ?

I find it funny that you asked about this. Surely you must know what you want, especially when it comes to marriage. In fact, I feel sorry for your girlfriend; from what you have described, you show neither respect nor trust! True, I dont know a thing about your girlfriend or you for that matter, but I couldnt resist this idiom: the pot calling the kettle black!

Hi Aiselaem,

Based upon your post,

1.You are NOT mature enough to get marry as you've already known the answerS but still asking opinion from other and still don't know what or how to deal with the situation.
2.If you are still walking around the bush for a little, small issue like this. How could you deal with all others big, critical situations in LIFE ... in general.
3. Think straight, be frank. You 've already got the answer. The only thing you need to do is to REALIZE it.

Good luck,

***MTDY***