I feel that you should forgive her and get back together with her. Since she doesn’t have a place to stay you should ask her to move into your place as soon as possible. Forgiving is a really good attribute of a spouse.

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Relationship Breakup

Đánh kẻ quay đi, không đánh người quay lại .

Đàn ông không nên hẹp hòi như vậy .

Chỉ là bản ngã bị tổn thương vì bị cắm sừng thôi .

Cho nhau thời gian và khoảng cách để suy nghĩ lại .

Rồi coi mình có tầm thường như những người khác không ?

Hỏi ai không bằng hỏi chính bản thân .

Quên đi tất cả . Bước vào cuộc sống mới vơi những bươc' đi vưng vàng hơn .
Người phu nữ ngoai tình môt lần sẽ ngoai tình mãi mãi .
" Ngưa quen đường cũ "
Chuc ban may mắn

me....(you can call me an old fashion guy)...but its a NO NO for me

she doesnt have a place to stay because the kunt doesnt have a space for her

you take her back then whats if there is another guy thats have a space for her?...

you should've spend more time with her( maybe too late now)

What I Think is that women cheated on you not because the other men have a longer *ick than you...( i dont know!!!).... may be just other things.....emotional....( or what eva turn her on )

I believe you should forgive her, she deserves a second chance. She made a mistake and that mistake can never be taken back. You must understand everyone made bad mistakes in life and it is very important to understand why and reasons it out why such things happen in the first place. There are reasons to everything so you need to sit down with her and work it out. Only you can forgive her and move on. You should look on the bright side, two children together. A family without a mother will be devastated to the children. Don't be an old fashion, think for your children first.
For example, if you divorce her, then what, remarry? what if its happen again? You there are lots of people out there who are cheater but they never admitted to their spouse. Your should give her credit for confessing. Forgive and move on is a way to happy ending. Please think very carefully.

I want to asked all the one that say to forgive. This question is for the men and women.

What if you can forgive but you can't forget. It doesn't matter how much you want to forget it will eventually come back and you will start to question yourself again. When you get in a fight are you going to bring back the topic ? How can you trust them again ?

He didn't say he has 2 kids, it was his so called best friend that has 2 kids, you need to read it again.

Lastly, she didn't cheat him once, it was TWICE.

mo^.t lan` con` co' the? suy nghi,, nhu*ng cai' nay` la` 2 lan`.

[QUOTE=kendu;7624467]Đánh kẻ quay đi, không đánh người quay lại .

Đàn ông không nên hẹp hòi như vậy .

Chỉ là bản ngã bị tổn thương vì bị cắm sừng thôi .

Cho nhau thời gian và khoảng cách để suy nghĩ lại .

Rồi coi mình có tầm thường như những người khác không ?

Hỏi ai không bằng hỏi chính bản thân .[/QUO




Agree. Plus treat her with humanity, I'll nver kick my spouse and left her like that, by law..its her house too
I see a good person in her by confessing to you, if you decided to forgive her, you must also compromise to forget for what she has done ! Let's give her another chance, regardless what the outcome is, at least you've give it a try, and at least you've shown that you Didnt give up the love that you both were once longing for..

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I remember my Anh said, "You ask them do D, they don't do D, then drop them...!

Dứt khoát. Cương quyết. Không dây dưa, suy đi tính lại okie!


... breath in, breath out, breath in, breath out...

cheating is unforgivable but think wisely before you decide anything

Reading back this 2006 family problem, I felt tinahuynhh was questioning the most logical question for the poster. No offend anyone here, but most responds were nonsense. No one even care to ask him detail on why she was cheating. Jumping into a conclusion to give people your comment was not, hmm..very bright.

Also, how many of you responders from 2006 until present were married?

If you were not in her or his shoes, then why judge for them? so nonsense..

I understand his upsetting, but from a point of view, he was upsetting and he needed to calm down to see the whole picture, then decide calmly on what he should do for his marriage. Coming here and get all kinds of respond would not help anything, especially how could he trust anyone here? Hello!!!

Another comment I like to point out for those future comment, nguoi xua noi' "khuyen nguoi ta da.y con, khong nen khuyen ai bo~ vo/chong" ...


Tuy quý vị cũng giận dữ khi đọc post, nhưng lời khuyên của quý vị vô tình xúi ng` ta bõ vợ ng ta, như vậy thêm tội NGHIỆP cho chính mình thôi ..

Mong quý vị sáng suốt hơn trong tương lai khuyên nhũ ng ta làm gi.

Well lets start with finding out the truth. If she says yes and he says no. Then ask when was it? If its recently then there should be phone records to back up her claims. If not then try to remember how they act when they are around each other. Do they look at each other differently than just friends. You can see this by how they glance at each other. If she loves u and don't want to loose u then she would never make up something like that. But u never really know now a days. There could be that 1%. Now on the the forgiving. If it really happened and guilt consumed her and she couldn't keep it in anymore then she is ready to accept the consequences and ask for forgiveness. If u r willing to forgive then she deserves more forgiving than your "best friend". At least she came forward, he flat out denies it. I know it is devastating for u and there will be a lot of soul searching on your part but think of how good it was? Is it good? Then maybe a second chance is possible... I know it is not an excuse but maybe it was just a fantasy to her and now she is awake and realized that the fantasy is not worth it. If u decide to take her back, please don't make it easy on her. She definitely have to earn it back, one day at a time.

i was Know that, 5 years ago ...
i was crying everydays and i was so sad
so, very difficult to forget, same now !!!

time is only saving... (to forget Da Huong)

She was my life my only love (heart broken)

Why ????

Khi bạn 50 tuổi thì bạn sẽ hiểu ra những gì bạn tưởng không thể thì lại rất có thể, thậm chí tốt hơn

Lời khuyên của tôi là 1 người đã đi qua những gì như bạn

Nếu bạn không thể thì bạn sẽ tự huỷ đời bạn bằng một cách nào đó

Tôi figure out, những người có thứ cảm nhận như bạn hay tôi là những kẻ yếu đuối, phụ thuộc vào người khác nhiều quá, sẽ chẳng thể làm được điều gì nếu thiếu người bên cạnh, mà ở đây là vợ, hoặc tại vì nền giáo dục Á châu đã làm cho cái cảm tình trở thành 1 thứ để thờ phượng, nên làm cho người bị đổ vỡ tình cảm có cảm nhận tội đồ hay tồi tệ

Nhưng, sự khác biệt là chưa hẳn đã phải là người đã đi thì mới có thể, mà là ai cũng có thế, có nghĩa là, chính vì thất bại trong tình cảm mà sanh ảo tưởng, chứ thật ra không cần thiết đến nỗi như bạn nghĩ

Hãy thử làm lại những gì như xưa và sẽ có người đàn bà khác đến với bạn mà bạn sẽ không ngờ được là còn tốt hơn người đã đi

Tin tôi đi

Hi. You need to stay strong for your kids. Did she sleep with that guy ? Once a cheater always a cheater
She was so inconsiderate to you and she kept it fr you for 3 year you truly have a big heart to. Forgive her.