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Old 05-18-2009 , 12:19 PM     noeducation est dconnect  search   Quote  
Your priest told you not to get a divorce..How can lame people like us convince you otherway?
Make your own decision and live with it. &*()with the priest
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Old 07-08-2009 , 08:01 AM     illburknight est dconnect  search   Quote  
At the beginning you sounded mature, wise and intelligent. I have no doubt that you were making the right decision until you said: "my priest advised me not to file a divorce because I am a Catholic." It throws everything you previous said out the window. Do you do everything your priest tells you to do? Is your priest suffering? Is he living your life? Is he crying at night with no comfort? Is he raising your children? To some, religion is important but you can not allow your religion to make the decision for you. Ask yourself and mention this to your priest the next time you see him. Would he (your priest) stay with his wife if she's F******* another man? I'm sorry for being a prick but religion shouldn't be part of the marriage.

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Old 07-18-2009 , 03:16 PM     lequydon07 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Think about ur Kid then you should divorce ur hb, not bc Catholic...
Ur hb will leave u so why u have to sorry for him? Be realistic and strong..
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Old 07-18-2009 , 03:20 PM     lequydon07 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Enough is enough!!! I think 20 years is too much to suffer. Talk to the lawyer, collect the evident from his abuse, cheating on u. Make him to pay for child support and move on with your own life and kids..
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Old 08-27-2009 , 08:10 AM     TinhTran est dconnect  search   Quote  
Why you wait so long? I don't think divorced is a bad thing. You have to live and deal with him not the Priest. Your children will understand if he is that horrible. Divorced and Move on with your life.
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Old 10-08-2010 , 03:08 PM     Zyrtec est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hi Sad Wife,

If you are 100% believe in Catholic, and against divorce. But I also believe Caltholic does not allow adultry either. So, while your are suffering in your relationship, and your husband is away with another woman. Can you find in the Bible that you can't divorce your partner if adultry is involve, please let me know? Is that make by God or is that make up by mankind?

Religion needs to seperate from law. There are priest in Catholic commit adultry too.

Bible was transcibed by mankind and mankind makes mistake, but the Lord will forgive ours sins. Don't take that advantage.

Also, you don't have to marry in the Church to said you believe in God or Virgin Marry. I have witness people who belive in God and Virgin Marry and commit crimes, adultry, pornograhpy etc....There are other religion that you can convert to, but I am not saying that need to go that route. If you belive in God or Virgin Marry, it does matter who you are, whether you marry, divorce or not. If we live in a perfect world, then I will follow the guidline, if not, then why I should I listen to other human being tell me what to do or not to do so I can be fit in the little group or society. I have 3 different religions in me. Batist, Catholic, Budist and they are all say do good things. It is up to you to decide. It is your life. Wish you all the best!
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Old 10-16-2010 , 08:11 PM     HuyT84 est dconnect  search   Quote  
I think if you divorce, is too easy for him because he will marry the other one right away. If you want to divorce then do it later. If i were you, i will stay with that man but i will look around. When i find somebody that will take care of me, then i will divorce him. When you divorce him, you give him a chance to be with that women right away and you will be alone with yr kids. He can do whatever he want right now, just be sweet as you can with him. I know is hard but don't let him and that girl from Vn get what they want. Just prepared a sweet revenge. Please don't trust that man anymore even if he sweet talk with you. Just use him right now.
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Old 10-17-2010 , 02:26 AM     sweet32CA951 est dconnect  search   Quote  
To what I can recall, there 3 A's that allows you to divorce and remarry. 1. Adultry 2. Abuse 3. Anulment [I think]. The priest gave you the wrong advice, God doesn't want his children to suffer.

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Yes Sad Wife you can not file a divorce because you are a catholic and if you want to practice your faith. You can, however, separate from him for good. This means that you will be a single mom but can not legally get married again in the church. I am also a practicing catholic, and I know this is hard for you. I suggest that you separate (ly than) from him and openly tell your kids that you can not accept that kind of behavior from your husband and they should not follow his footsteps, but you must leave the door open for him to come back in case he wants to change his way of life (you know that Christ' arms always open on the cross and wait for sinners like us to come back). You can read the life of Saint Monica to get encouragement and an insight of how to solve your problems. You're called to pray for his conversion and salvation. May God bless you and give you the strength and wisdom to live your life according to the Catholic faith.
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Old 11-03-2010 , 07:01 AM     toinghiep est dconnect  search   Quote  
Sadwife, let him go! You deserve a better man than him.

You want to live a healthy life for your kids. Your life is wasted if you still stay with that man. Who know what he has done in Vietnam. You don't want to get AIDS...

NO ONE loves you, if you don't love yourself. Please be kind, give yourself a true love, before you can love someone else.

Make a smart decision!! GIVE YOU A NEW HEALTHY HAPPY LIFE. Divorce is not as scary like you thought. You will be fine. You will look back and say to yourself GOSH, I SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT SOONER!

I know you can do it. You are a smart, intellegent woman. Give yourself a way out of this sadness.

Good luck!
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Old 01-20-2011 , 04:43 PM     waostar est dconnect  search   Quote  
wowo this is a hard case here for u.. there is alot of good advise people give to u here...for me i think u should divorce him... u dont need a man in yr family to rise yr kids...u do it all by yrself from the start..u are a strong woman...u dont need a cheating man in yr life to be happy...i know the kids will be sad about it but do u think they will be happy to see u are sad and hurt every night andday... no i dont think they would like to see that...and know dady is a cheating and having kids in vn behind yr back...but remember this is my option only okay....u dont have to take it....and now this is what u should do go....u have to sit down and clear yr mind and thinking deepppplyyy inslde yr heart and then tell yrself what u should do....u is the only one can do this....this is yr life... and u can choose it what to do and what it good for yr family and yrself... u have to think hard about it and 2step ahead b4 u make yr final move..... that all good luck honey and be strong....
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Old 11-19-2011 , 04:44 AM     traonham est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hi sis Sad Wife:
Your story have been over 6yrs now.......what did you choosen......?What would you do if you had no religion? What would your advice be if your daughter or sister were in the same situation?thank you for any advice....

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Old 12-04-2011 , 08:50 PM     ureshanL est dconnect  search   Quote  
If I were you I will have a divorce. You're independent and a good woman/mother. You don't need to with someone just because it looks right if it does not feel right. Go on with your life and your kids, you can make it.
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Old 05-01-2012 , 01:37 AM     ANSU est dconnect  search   Quote  
I am really sorry to hear about your life time story. Though, my advice for you is to have a family counselor to sit down and talk to you and him about the behavior he have done, the second part of the life story is to blame on his family because of abuse, divorce, and other typical things. What he needs is a deliverance because demons and evil spirits uses him to commit adultery. A simple prayer will take long time but as I watched CBN lately to see that if you read bible and asked Jesus to save your marriage. He will do so, I am catholic to but I watched CBN because it's a good lessons for me to learn more about his prayers answered. Since I watched CBN (Christian Broadcasting Network) Things are dimming a little each day, When the people in CBN pray. I bow my head and pray with them as I go along, because of CBN. I got into 3 movies so far, (as movie extras for beginner, everyone has to get through that in able to become an actor) so. I will pray for you and he will change things around. Remember these words.

Matthew 6:14 For if you forgive men when they sin against you,

also remember important.

Matthew 6:9 You must pray, then, this way: Our father in the heavens, let your name be sanctified. Let your kingdom come. Let your will take place as in heaven, also upon earth, give us today our bread for this day and forgive us our debts as we also forgiven our debtors and do not bring us into temptation but deliver us from the wicked. God will change you and he will change your husband life around. Sinners will reap the punished they shall have and you shall reap your personal rewards in the future. All those who hated me in my church according to the way I look, they will reap their rewards.(in hell) To make you feel even better, my uncle talks dirt about me in front of my in law uncle (my youngest aunt's husband) and in the year 2001 he got into an accident (too bad he didn't get hurt but got a biggest fine ha ha ha) and now his child dis own him. There are more "REWARDS" coming his way. Now, I found out that he's fired from the job. That makes me feel better about myself because what I did is leave him up to god.
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Old 06-26-2012 , 03:31 AM     mrfine00 est dconnect  search   Quote  
You're a responsible mother and wife, I am a catholic too. I think you should be separated for awhile then make decision.
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Old 11-20-2013 , 10:36 AM     distinct_one est dconnect  search   Quote  
IF you have to ask this simple question, then it's time to call an attorney. Life is too short to go through with question.
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Old 12-06-2013 , 04:34 AM     Dan Nguyen est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hello Ban,

Ban hay suy nghi truoc khi ly di, tai vi con no se kho.

Co bao gio ban hoi nguoi chong tai sao anh ay lai lam vay? Doi luc nguoi dan ong thieu 1 cai gi do, va nguoc lai. tai sao toi nong noi nay.

Cheating is not right, and being cheated on is not right either. Communication and honesty and committment will save your marriage.

Minh rat cam dong voi cau chuyen ban ke, ban la 1 nguoi tot. Va se gap duoc nhieu may man.

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Old 12-17-2013 , 12:13 AM     Chó_Hồ est dconnect  search   Quote  
Priests????? uuhhh yeah....they told people dont commit sins and then behind closed doors, they **** the alter boys.
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Old 03-20-2014 , 10:43 AM     thanhmyvan est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Originally Posted by Sad Wife
I am asking for your opinions. I am very sad and confused right now. Please be serious.

During my 20-year marriage, I forgave my husband many times for what he had done. He is vu phu and has not provided financial and emotional support to me and our child. With a determination, I finished college, found a job and raised the kid. The reason I stay in this marriage because of my child and I hoped that he could change. In addition, I am a conservative person and thought that divorce is the last thing to end a marriage. My husband told me that I have not done anything wrong and I am a good mother, except that I do not talk like VN girls (sweet talk?).

Last year I found a letter from a VN girl sent to my husband. In her letter, she described the intimate relationship between her and my husband. So I learned that my husband has committed an adultry with some girls in VN. My husband's family has a history of domestic abuse, divorce, adultry and having children out of wedlock. I did not know this when I married to him because his family was not in the US at that time. If I am divorced, I will be the first divorced person in my family and the _ _th in his family.

My husband left me again and has been in VN for two months. Now I consider to file for a divorce and move on with my life. However, my priest advised me not to file a divorce because I am a Catholic. What should I do?

Thank you in advance
Divorce him immediately. Once a cheater will always be a cheater and there's no way to make it right. How can you sit there and ask for any advice when you know the right thing to do is to quickly file for a divorce.

Be honest? You will always wonder and assume that he's cheating on you regardless of the outcome. Is this how you want to live your life from now on? Men these days will always get tired of one woman and slowly they begin to cheat.

Duyen nho da het roi bay gio thi den luc phai chia thay thoi.
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Old 08-12-2015 , 05:47 PM     Sowhoat32 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Just continue with the marriage so that your child can be tormented by the frustration of a broken marriage. That way your child will never ever want to marry. That should save the child from dissapointment in the future. Great plan!
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