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Exotic_Beauty
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Old 07-07-2006 , 10:39 AM     Exotic_Beauty est dconnect  search   Quote  
Yes please do think about the baby!!!! Your husband is a cheater...you are carrying his child and yet he went and screw..another woman....you think you will be ok?

You will never be ok!! Because you cant trust him! So what do you think that stress is going to do to the baby inside of you??

Yes please do think about your baby!!! And get rid of your cheating husband!

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thelovevibes
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Old 07-07-2006 , 03:15 PM     thelovevibes est dconnect  search   Quote  
So sad to hear about your current situation sis, you're in a very tough position .

I'll ađvise you nhé, vợ chồng sis must see a marriage counsellor and root out your prob. I sensed the root of the probl....and I mean probs đó .

Sort this out đi sis,,,dónt push this issue back,,,,right now the most important thing is YOU and the BABY, take care of yourself and the BABY là trên hết .

You must prioritized yourself better sis à . Debts / student loan,,,,còn nước thì còn tát,,,,làm gì mà hối thúc nợ nần dzữ vậy , phận đàn bà , chồng con là trên hết, em làm hùn hụt vậy quên cã taking care of what is suppose to be the most important thing nữA mới đỗ vỡ mới có đi tới cái CRACKED như ngày hôm nay có ĐÁNG không ?

Chuyện gì cũng thũng thẵng từ từ rồi cũng sẽ được giãi quyết mà .

Em ko đi làm được gì BB thì bất quá điều đình với người ta trã student loan 20 $ / tháng 50 $ / tháng thì nói hiện giờ tôi ko có income, họ làm gì được em ?

Em rushing wá ,,,,it't not helping you or the BABY or your relationship with your hubby .

Cut back on your busy schedule đi, take it easy đi em . GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESSES you and the BABY nhe .
didong
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Old 07-08-2006 , 06:19 AM     didong est dconnect  search   Quote  
*DomDo'm*
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Old 07-08-2006 , 03:43 PM     *DomDo'm* est dconnect  search   Quote  
Pregnant while holding two jobs? Greed has a price!!
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Old 07-10-2006 , 01:44 PM     lovelydovely est dconnect  search   Quote  
Sorry to hear about you situation, but your husband is one horny sicko inconsiderate bastard!

Mistakes sometimes can be forgiven. Indeed, he does deserve a second chance for the sake of you family. Please do keep in mind, there's still a huge possibilities that he will cheat again.

For now, concentrate on the pregnancy. You should try to not stress out too much about it. Also, think for the baby and do save the marriage.

Gluck!
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Old 07-11-2006 , 08:10 AM     dulang est dconnect  search   Quote  
It take two to tango, you work hard with a practical purpose. If your husband is lonely he have million other options to keep him busy, the very least is sleep with other woman. Or perhaps he should get a part time job to help you pay off your student loan quicker. It is not your fault.

This is not a good time for you to make a decision, don’t get back to him just simply say you need sometimes to think (consider this as a trial period) 1. This will give you a second chance to review your marriage 2. It give you sometimes to fulfill your heart with solid reasons why you should live or stay with this man because you are confuse right now part of you still loving him and the other part of you want to live him for what he has done to you. To set your mind straight try this set your standard ground rule and expectation (don’t increase it over time otherwise it will have side effect) and create a marriage account. Each positive think he did above and beyond your expectation deposit one credit. Each negative thing he fail your expectation withdraw one credit. Do account balance every couple weeks or months and let your heart decide by then whether you want to stay with this man or not. A few things to consideration for your closure decision: 1. You’re newly wed. This period should be the most happiness years of your marriage, the period he doesn’t have enough of you around, and he cheat. 2. This is your first-born child together, did he care? why he willing to gameling his marriage he could loss you and his child?

Last but not least give birth to a healthy baby is very important to you now. The baby health will effect your future marriage decision. By doing that eat healthy and stop crying, how? telling yourself, the sun will rise after the raining day. It does not matter how big the storm it the sun will rise eventually.
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Old 07-11-2006 , 09:06 AM     Oakland est dconnect  search   Quote  
your husband is an idiot. no one should ever forgive a cheater, i firmly believe that. cheating is unforgiveable. i hope you can find some inner strength in yourself and get a divorce and move on with your life.

don't try to reason it out and say that you love him and you should forgive him bc by any standard or cultural values, cheating is unforgiveable, plain and simple.

good luck.
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Old 07-11-2006 , 10:19 AM     Pharm D est dconnect  search   Quote  
It is nobody’s fault. Consider your problem as an outcome of a clinical trial as someone had already mentioned. Your workaholic is a confounder. Unfortunately, confounders always occur in every trial.
For me, 40 hour at retail pharmacy especially Rite Aid is more than enough to cause a pharmacist frustrated and exhausted. Two overnight shifts in addition per week are far too much to keep you from pleasure and compassion of marriage, interests of live. Your husband is desperately starving while you are unavailable and unable to supply food and nutrition of love. As mentioned by other reader, you must need to prioritize your things to do. You have a whole life to repay your student loan, but you only have a moment of present to enjoy and fulfill your life emotionally and physically. You must treasure each moment you have.
Ethically, your husband should have divorced you for the reason not enough time together before he tried in-and-out and fast food. You work extra days to repay for YOUR student loan, and from a legal aspect, it is to serve your PERSONAL purpose, not for the community of your family. How will you explain this to your husband and the judge?
What you should do now? Put it behind, restart to build up your relationship and do every thing to welcome the baby to the world in which one can only trust and be faithful to himself / herself.
Good luck
BuonGhe^
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Old 07-11-2006 , 07:40 PM     BuonGhe^ est dconnect  search   Quote  
So what if you are pregnant? Is that a good reason to try to mend a cheating heart? Granted to some people, that's all they need, but in my personal opinion, for you to go through this pregnancy with the added stress of two jobs, a constant worry whether he's at home with some other chick, shack up in a hotel with some girl, is he home chatting and arrange a rendevouz ? Obviously, this is not healthy for you, or the baby. And you are not able to spend all your time with him. On top of that, as your tummy is swelling, you lack the energy, not in the mood ... will he be supportive, or wonder off to find a girl who is willing to put out ?

Think about, one less stress will do you a world of good. A cheater will always be a cheater.

Best wishes.
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Old 07-11-2006 , 08:47 PM     raidener est dconnect  search   Quote  
I suggest you sell your husband and baby on ebay. put it on buy it now no refund.
thelovevibes
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Old 07-15-2006 , 03:00 PM     thelovevibes est dconnect  search   Quote  
Quote :
Originally Posted by raidener
I suggest you sell your husband and baby on ebay. put it on buy it now no refund.

adviced kiễu gì vậy ? ,,,,IT"S A BABY a HUMAN BEING not a thing !


Cha cũa đứa nhõ gây ra tội,,,chứ KHÔNG phãi đứa BABY trong bụng làm ra tội , GET IT STRAIGHT !

Người nào làm tội thì người đó chịu . Không nên giận cá nhè thớt mà bằm .

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HunnyBunny
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Old 07-19-2006 , 08:54 AM     HunnyBunny est dconnect  search   Quote  
Wife is pregnant, working two jobs... and he cheats.
Oh..man... :(

Sorry khong biet khuyen lam sao...
Bunny
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Old 07-19-2006 , 12:48 PM     noname est dconnect  search   Quote  
your cousin must be real hot is she hotter than you
katiejane
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Old 07-28-2006 , 12:05 AM     katiejane est dconnect  search   Quote  
What a tragedy...i don't know what to tell ya...but i assured you it seems to be that TYPE...the one that can't be faithful and doesn't really know the real meaning of being married..Yes, you're pregnant it's not easy to break away but do prepare for emotional withdrawal if you can..because if you forgive him there will still be a second...third.fourth time..He's an idiot...you're a pharmacist and he still treat you like that....well...just be ready or one day you'll end up kiling l yourself..it's just not be create more pessimism but this guy just sound like an asshole..he will cheat again honey...don't dwell on it..Good luck!!!
Le_Duan
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Old 07-28-2006 , 05:21 AM     Le_Duan est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Old 08-31-2006 , 11:50 AM     thanphan2006 est dconnect  search   Quote  
If you still love him, get a couselor. Stop working 60 hours/week. I having no time for romance.
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Old 08-31-2006 , 01:53 PM     pinball est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Originally Posted by ===CAOCAO===
Ai đó yêu bạn không phải vì bạn là ai mà vì họ sẽ là ai khi họ đi bên cạnh bạn.Không ai đáng giá bằng những giọt nước mắt của bạn. Và những người đáng giá sẽ không bao giờ làm bạn khóc.Ðừng bao giờ cau mày hay nhăn mặt thậm chí khi bạn đang buồn. Chắc chắn sẽ có ai đó yêu bạn chỉ vì nụ cười của bạn thôi.Với thế giới, bạn chỉ là một cá nhân, nhưng với một ai đó, bạn là cả thế giới.Ðừng phí thời gian cho những ai không sẵn sàng dành thời gian của họ cho bạn.Có lẽ Thượng Ðế muốn chúng ta gặp một vài người sai trước khi gặp đúng người để ta càng biết ơn người đó hơn.Ðừng khóc vì mọi việc đã qua, hãy cười vì mọi việc đang chờ phía trước.Luôn nhớ rằng bạn có hai cánh tay: một để tự giúp đỡ chính mình, một để giúp đỡ những người khác.Ðừng kì vọng quá nhiều. Ðiều tốt đẹp nhất sẽ đến khi bạn ít trông chờ nhất.Hãy nhớ: mọi việc xảy ra đều có nguyên do.
Amen......this loi hay y dep should be on Mai magazine news paper.
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Old 09-06-2006 , 05:38 PM     RiceBaby est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Originally Posted by ===CAOCAO===
Ai đó yêu bạn không phải vì bạn là ai mà vì họ sẽ là ai khi họ đi bên cạnh bạn.Không ai đáng giá bằng những giọt nước mắt của bạn. Và những người đáng giá sẽ không bao giờ làm bạn khóc.Ðừng bao giờ cau mày hay nhăn mặt thậm chí khi bạn đang buồn. Chắc chắn sẽ có ai đó yêu bạn chỉ vì nụ cười của bạn thôi.Với thế giới, bạn chỉ là một cá nhân, nhưng với một ai đó, bạn là cả thế giới.Ðừng phí thời gian cho những ai không sẵn sàng dành thời gian của họ cho bạn.Có lẽ Thượng Ðế muốn chúng ta gặp một vài người sai trước khi gặp đúng người để ta càng biết ơn người đó hơn.Ðừng khóc vì mọi việc đã qua, hãy cười vì mọi việc đang chờ phía trước.Luôn nhớ rằng bạn có hai cánh tay: một để tự giúp đỡ chính mình, một để giúp đỡ những người khác.Ðừng kì vọng quá nhiều. Ðiều tốt đẹp nhất sẽ đến khi bạn ít trông chờ nhất.Hãy nhớ: mọi việc xảy ra đều có nguyên do.

When you are not in the situation it's easy to say....why? moi. viec xay? ra ddeu co' nguyen do....tell me ?
DustEater
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Old 09-07-2006 , 03:39 PM     DustEater est dconnect  search   Quote  
Whose fault is it????

A - A married man with unmet needs so he had to seek them somewhere else...

B - A wife who put other priorities above her hubby's needs...

At this point you have 3 options:

1) divorce the unfaithful man and be a single mom

2) have an abortion and divorce the man

3) stay with him and try to mend thing up. It's not going to be easy because the trust is no longer there. A relationship without trust is a painful one....

So what is your priority right now? No one but you will have to decide. Whatever your decision is - you and you alone will live with it for the rest of your life...

Last edited by DustEater; 09-07-2006 at 03:43 PM..
JohnR
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Old 09-07-2006 , 07:09 PM     JohnR est dconnect  search   Quote  
Dusteater,

Your wife is a pain dude.
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