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Old 01-29-2007 , 02:06 PM     tinahuynhh est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Do you live in the US or Vietnam?

I think most people who replied are from the US.

I want to share something that I saw from the last trip back to VN. I know many many guys in VN do what 30some is asking, and their wifes do not have any problem. Some wifes in VN knows that the husband goes to "bia o^m", "Karaoke o^m", "massage", and may have sex with someone. But those wifes seem that they do not care as long as the husband takes a good care of the family.

Anyone here lives in VN or went back to VN ? Do you see that too?
IDIOT! You know why women in VN accept the fact that their husbands sleep around with whores? Because those women depends on their husbands financially. They don't know where to live after the divorces. Do you think they are happying knowing their husbands are fuking around like a crazy horses? Think again.
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Old 01-29-2007 , 02:09 PM     tinahuynhh est dconnect  search   Quote  
Caring for family => Fuking sluts
Are you having a brain problem sir?
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Old 01-29-2007 , 02:36 PM     kryptogrowl est dconnect  search   Quote  
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What do you think of married guys who are occasionally having encounters with escort girls ? Many of my successful friends are doing this and think there's nothing wrong with it if they still can provide a good life for their wife and kids. I know this is morally wrong, but most married guys I know think this is fine, as long as you can afford it, keep it discreet within yourself (just like having masturbation) and just don't get too addicted. Going to strip bars, having lapdances or nude massages, having sex with escort girls are the normal hobbies of alot of unmarried guys (including me when I was unmarried) and it seems to be morally acceptable by society; but what about for married men ?

Personally, I have not thought about this for 8 years since I got married; but lately, I have changed my views. A successful man who's financially successful, on top of that, can have some fun encounters with beautiful women (paid or non-paid) as long as his number one priority in life is still his wife and family.

Girls: please share your opinion on this. If your husband has taken extremely good care of the family (financially well-off and raise the children well), does he deserve to have some erotic fun with his friends like having lapdances, nude messages, sex with high-class escorts etc.. ? How far is too far ? Would he be forgiven if you found out he has some encounters with some high-class escorts ( and yet your sex life with him is still good and he doesn't think of anyone else when he has sex with you) ? I need some affirmations from people before deciding on my own.

- D.

This thread is vile.

To say that every man wants to cheat on his wife is retarded. Don't project you immaturity on real men working hard to satisfy their wives.

You feel the need to sleep around because of your own lack of confidence, yes I think you have teeny tiny confidence.

Since you can't grow anymore at least divorce your wife so she can find someone better that you, you POS.
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Old 03-15-2007 , 06:13 PM     Anthem est dconnect  search   Quote  
Kryptogrowl: Well said!

Guy who started the Thread:

There are many different relationships in the world, and the one you're considering is one of them. If that's what floats your boat, go for it. I think most people in here are angry because you seem to imply that "all" or even "most" men would be like you. This is simply incorrect and you're just projecting your feelings onto all men, or your narrow aquaintance has given you the idea that all men would like such an idea of a married relationship.

I think, and forgive me if I'm wrong... put bluntly, you haven't gotten enough ass. In my experience, guy's who have gotten plenty, don't feel the need to continually go and chase skirts.

If you're still reading this post, I have some questions for you. If a person wants the thrill of the chase continuously... why not remain a bachelor? Then you can chase skirts until the day is done, without guilt and without having your actions affect other people.. namely wife and children. Children who grow up in homes where their parents are loving and devoted become much better people. People who's daddies had escorts and momma's cry silently in secret... Those are your troubled individuals.

Some men claim that get married because they want a family. Well Guys... Family means knowing how to look after other people, and being able to make sure that everyone works together and is happy together. If you have to lie, or be "discreet"... then you're tearing your own family apart with lies and dishonesty. Sure children of messed up families still grow up. Most aren't psychos or anything, but they sure do carry emotional and mental burdens with them. Like you. You didn't grow up in a family where your parents were in love did you? Chances are, you've never really seen a healthy relationship first hand.

Second question... if your wife discreetly has lovers or "high class" escorts, would that be okay? If the house is clean, the meals are perfection, and she still performs well in bed... what does it matter if she has lovers on the side right? If you can honestly be okay with that... then atleast you're an honest man. If you're not okay with that, but feel that somehow you're still entitled to have some sort of special consideration, then, you are just another lowly scumbag, who's trying to pull a one over on the woman who's suppose to be his life partner and mother of his children.

Honestly, unless the woman you marry is all about your money and doesn't love you, she's not going to be okay with your indisgretions. And if thats the case, once your money is gone... so is your wife and children. Guys like you remind me to be even more thankful that my boyfriend is so normal and so wonderful. No twisted ideas of life or families. No secrets and lies.
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Old 03-19-2007 , 09:52 PM     sweet30CA951 est dconnect  search   Quote  
You know in life, what comes around goes around. Don't think that just because you have money and a sucessful career, it can be taken away in a snap. Don't take thing for granted and don't live life with regrets. I'm sure that you wouldn't want your wife seeing and sleeping with male escorts. When you're thinking about seeking escort, pretend your wife is an escort or spend that time with your kids or volunteer in the community. You wouldn't want those escort knowing that you having money, you never know whats their intent at the end.

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Old 05-17-2008 , 07:54 PM     all41life est dconnect  search   Quote  
You are not satisfied with your sex life thats why you are seeking others...Why dont you talk to your wife abt your guys' sex life? Maybe your wife is too busy at work and taking care of the kid that she forget the needs of her husband. Or maybe you are too ashamed to talk straight? Be yourselve, your wife later will appreciate of your honesty.. Communication is the key.
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Old 09-19-2008 , 04:16 PM     xiudon est dconnect  search   Quote  
Well, it depends to your relationship with your wife. Some marriage is long, so the wife may have boring feeling with u, then she doesn't mine u going out, at long you bring home money, take good care of her and the children, she will have no problem with that. However, some woman has jealousy blood, she will not accepted, even you bring home a lot of money, bcuz what she wants is you, not money.

To me, u just go out and have fun, but don't forget to take care of your family. Some guys went out and got stuck with girls, and all their money keep losing for those girls, at the end they lost their families. In my case, I allow my husband to hang out with girls no problem, at long I am always number one on his list.
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Old 09-20-2008 , 09:08 PM     Lily-tim est dconnect  search   Quote  
why did you married her, and why you settle down.
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Old 09-21-2008 , 11:05 PM     sunshine06 est dconnect  search   Quote  
whoa i dont think can do that.... NO way im gonna let my husband go out like that kind of stuff cuz i dont wanna share my life partner with someone else and there is no different btw a whore and a " high class " girl escort " just an excuse " pssssshhhh. and ur situation concern as a cheater
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Old 10-26-2008 , 07:15 PM     EmBell est dconnect  search   Quote  
Dude, ever seen pictures of herpes?? Transmission is skin-to-skin. Even if you wear a condom with those con Diems, you can still contract it, ya know??

Just tellin it like it is, from a human-to-another-human bro. Let's try to promote health, safety, good public sanitation here.

Those places are like an STD incubator. For the sake of humanity- Let's try to keep the spread of STIs low.

Now, if your wife is well aware of it, then it would be good that she cautiously *doesn't* jump in bed.:
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Old 11-26-2008 , 09:13 PM     love24 est dconnect  search   Quote  
I think it's fun and it will be addicted eventually; because it is wrong to do that to your wife. But if you want to enjoy life because you think you deserve it, then you should go for it.;;-)) It's feel heaven when go behind people back! I'm a girl but do it too because people get bored when same thing over and over again right, people would eventually throw up;.
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Old 12-10-2008 , 03:19 PM     Trai_Nam est dconnect  search   Quote  
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I think it's fun and it will be addicted eventually; because it is wrong to do that to your wife. But if you want to enjoy life because you think you deserve it, then you should go for it.;;-)) It's feel heaven when go behind people back! I'm a girl but do it too because people get bored when same thing over and over again right, people would eventually throw up;.
Do you want to get STDs or even worst AIDS? Be careful out there...
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Old 06-10-2009 , 11:23 AM     shirleydоan est dconnect  search   Quote  
escort is very degrading, especally if you married. Its like cheat your wife and family suffer a lot. I am a woman and I thought I won't want that done to me from my husband.
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Old 07-01-2009 , 07:14 AM     no_love est dconnect  search   Quote  
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So why don't we all have opened relationships ... I won't mind to see my husband with some escorts but definitely would find myself with some lovers on the side of the relationship while remaining as a couple for the kids. If that the case why would anyone want to stay in the marriage in the first place ? Is it marriage based on commitment and honesty ? I mean you lie to yourself, to your wife & to your kids. This thing is ridiculous & irresponsible (not thinking that you might bring diseases to her in many ways) ... I am wondering how these men would react if they only know while they spend their time with their escort, their wife also spend time with their lover.

Would you dare to have an opened relationship with your wife knowing the risk that you might loosing her ?

Of course you don't want to loose it all (loosing your face with your family & everyone, money & kids) & face the divorce .. If you are a real man .. then have the gust to stay truth & do something decent.

If I were your wife, I would divorce you .. & still get the money and custody of the kids & find myself a new decent man in my life.
Not bad idea ,this is a fair game ...
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Old 07-08-2009 , 05:06 PM     wonder_why est dconnect  search   Quote  

If you really want to this, no one can stop you.

If I am your wife, I will take the kids and move on.

If your wife let you do this, to be fair, it's ok for her to do the same thing, right? If you're ok then nothing else to say.

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Old 07-14-2009 , 01:05 PM     PrincessLove est dconnect  search   Quote  
I like DomDom's reply. Way to go DD!!!! you hit the heart of what a relationship between the two persons should be.

People think that a man can do what he wants to do because he brings home the money...

People think that a man can do what he wants to do just because he is a man...

Fortunately for the man, he can do whatever he wants because he brings home the money and because he is the man... but in the end... he will be THE LONELY MAN....
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Old 07-16-2009 , 01:21 PM     xiudon est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Are you saying that your sex life is low and that you feel that you need exitement to maintain ur marriage life? Have you talked to your wife about this? If she feels the same way as you, then I recommend a possible solution to your problem. It's call being a "Swinger." Last month, I was watching Oprah, and there was this couple, who both have PhD in accounting and have three children. Basically, their financial resources are very well-off and their children are teenagers. However, they start to feel things are "boring" so they want to spice up their sex life, so they join this thing call "swinging." What swinging is you meet a couple who are in the same situation with you and you "swing." Usually, at this kind of event, you meet a couple in which both of you like and through some form of agreement and understand, you establish goals such as you can flirt, kiss, but not having sex or in anyway that you feel comfortable with. However, in swinging world, no means no, and there is no forcing into having sex when you don't like each other. Hence, this couple on Oprah said that they have been doing this for four years and enjoying doing it. But here is the catch, couples who join swinging need to be understandle of the other half, and have an open communication and trust of each other. Marriages who may and are going through rocks are not recommended. So if this is what you might think of joining, talk to your wife first and do some research before making decisions.
U have shared a such good idea.
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Old 07-16-2009 , 01:51 PM     xiudon est dconnect  search   Quote  
I think it is understandable. If I were in ur situation I would do the same thing. Cuz my man and I have been together for many many years already, we're kind of boring of each other, but we just hold it inside, we don't talk about it. I think he also like to go out there and having encounter with escort girl too. If he does it, I will too. So u should think if u do it, your wife will do the same thing, then will u b ok?
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Old 07-16-2009 , 02:09 PM     vl0071 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Mens business is mens business. It should never be discussed, What is the purpose of putting this on a forum? Are you feeling guilty?
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Old 06-01-2013 , 04:34 PM     mitzi est dconnect  search   Quote  
That is taking it too far. If you are going to have sex why stay in ypur marroage? ? Might as well leave. Why. Torture. The wife and kids? I dont care. If he provides for the family
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