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lok4othehalf
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Old 10-28-2008 , 08:58 PM     lok4othehalf est dconnect  search   Quote  
hi there

your story is tooo long, but if you have time maybe we can chat and i'll give your some advices one by one okay

findingtheotherhalf @yahoo
Love,Me
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Old 11-03-2008 , 04:14 PM     Love,Me est dconnect  search   Quote  
if i were you, i would leave him. cut all ties and kick him out of your place. you two have been living together for two years, if he truly loves and is committed to you, he would not cheat. he's taking you for granted b/c he knows that you will take him back. you guys just talk for ~24hrs and already you forgiven him? too soon. like you say, during the past 2 years living together, how many times has he been unfaithful? he is saying all these sweet and remorseful stuff now b/c he got caught. plus, you said that your relationship is not getting better as time goes by, instead, it may have gotten sour over time. if it continues to be like that, even if you forgave him for the cheating, do you think he will start to make efforts to improve the relationship or is he going to go back to how he was before you caught him? there are other guys out there. 'cheat on me once, shame on you. cheat on me twice, shame on me'...life is too short to make the same mistakes twice.

Last edited by Love,Me; 11-03-2008 at 04:16 PM..
Sowhoat32
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Old 01-24-2009 , 01:27 AM     Sowhoat32 est dconnect  search   Quote  
wow, what a guy! i say this because i don't know too many guys who can persuade his girlfriend to give him a second chance. given the circumstance, many girls would kick the guy out. no questions asked, no explanation, and etc. The reason I say this is because a manipulative person always get their way, and the person who gives in will spend the rest of their life giving.

...these questions remain to be seen:
-is he that good at manipulating people?
-u are really in love and is afraid that you are not able to find a person to love.

...i wonder which it is.

i have experience dealing with manipulative people. pm me for further inquiries.

PS. What a sad situation for you! Cheaters, aka trader of trusts are not meant to be given any act of kindness. i hope you kick the p r i c k out.
cutie123
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Old 02-07-2009 , 09:42 PM     cutie123 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Sorry to hear that, I have been through that myself, I was very furious when my ex was always online, and of course, he was doing the same thing as your bf, but I didnt forgive him because I do not trust him anymore and I know that since I cant trust him anymore, there is no reason to try. He has to learn the hard way and regret what he did had and did not treasure. Those type of people will not change, he will always keep his options open. It is good to forgive and forget but it depends on the situation too. Think carefully before you make your decision. Wish you the best!
Be strong!
VienXu
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Old 02-10-2009 , 05:13 PM     VienXu est dconnect  search   Quote  
both of u kids need to growup , life aint perfect...take it or liv it.aint no marriage with out fights, aint no love with out hurts...blah..blah..blah..
anyhow , why cant i post new threads..??anyone can tell me..?
xiudon
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Old 02-11-2009 , 03:50 PM     xiudon est dconnect  search   Quote  
I don't think u can forget. It is my problem now too. My husband cheated on me, and fortunately I found out. Since that time on, I am trying to forgive him, but somehow it is too difficult for me. I can forgive, but can't forget, so our relationship is getting worser and worser. I can't even have sex with him, when every time I think about it. NOw I just be with him 4 the children, and no love at all. I live here, but my heart already death. I don't trust man anymore. I think it's time for u to leave him too, move on and find someone else. The younger the better chance to find single man out there. Don't wait too long and u will getting old like me, it will be too hard 4 finding another relationship. Even though, I am still looking good.
Good luck to u.
TinhTran
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Old 08-27-2009 , 09:18 AM     TinhTran est dconnect  search   Quote  
"why milk a cow when you can get it in different way"
blue angel
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Old 12-25-2009 , 05:25 PM     blue angel est dconnect  search   Quote  
i am having same situation with u when my bf seeking online relationship
my heart broke too
i think u shouldn't link up again to him
who know will he do the same thing later on or not?!
chinesemike
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Old 01-04-2010 , 08:10 AM     chinesemike est dconnect  search   Quote  
Trust is EVERYTHING!

When it is gone it is gone! Never forget! If you can forgive, expect to do it often.
People don't change.
xeom
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Old 04-30-2010 , 03:37 PM     xeom est dconnect  search   Quote  
I think you should give him a second chance if he's willing to give up browing the dating websites...after all, he's just a human and human do have temptations and make mistakes. nobody is perfect...say, you dump him and found another guy what make you sure the new guy is better???If he is sorry give the guy a break. Good luck to both of you.
men77
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Old 05-03-2010 , 02:56 AM     men77 est dconnect  search   Quote  
just my opinions...

when i/men that has a wife.....i/we always think that she's ours or would always be there for us.....like when we get drunk or we had a fight ......then when we come home theres will be a wife/mother....hihihiii that will take care of us.....women/wifes always there so we do sometime forget them....but not completely....

in your case.....you said that hes supporting emotionally and financially ......and when you found out that hes cheating online.....he begged you forgiveness......if he didnt supporting you in any way then you should doulbt (spelling) him .....but in this case he loves you or doesnt want to loose you......and he might just wants something difference

he would've told you to get the f*ck out of his life if he didnt care or wanted to be with you....

we men know that we're slacks and selfish..(my opinion any way ).... how many men that are f*cking around and not expecting their love ones to forgives them....its just for fun ...right?....

so girls .....BEWARE.....hihihihihi

give him another chance.....pretty hard to find a guy that is straight.......you should've pretend to be another girl and date him.....that would give him that SPIKE....hihihihihi
waostar
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Old 01-19-2011 , 08:20 PM     waostar est dconnect  search   Quote  
hey there stay strong okay...the way he do it wrong and he should not do that at all when both live together...if u live alone and u llive alone then it okay to go on dates b/c u two are not together yet so there for it okay but if u two are live together now and he did that too u then it not good at all...udont want that kind of man in yr life u can find someone better there alot of fish in the sea honey, i know that 2yrs is a long time to be together with a man but if a man start doing that then it no good no more....if u forgive him now then what happen next he will be with u and do not used the phone or pc at alll how can u trust that will happen....at first u inlove with him and love him 100% but now it cut in haft when he kiss and huge u right and then day after day the feeling become less feeling of love b/c u dont have the feeling like when u start to fall inlove with him right...i have that feeling tooo. this is my story to u.... i went and find a guy in NY and i start to fall in love with him 100% and we have talk more then 2 to 3 months and i think he a right guy for me....we even plan to go see each other and i say i start to go there to visit him first and we agree to it.... i go book my fly and plan to visit him for a week of my week off from work....and when we talk alot and i know that idid not send my pic to him yet but he did send his pic to me okay i okay and try to send it back to him... and he say he did not got my pic yet i wonder why and then it b/c own phone company it different sooo i try to send him some of my pic on computer to him and he say his computer is not work he need to fix it i understand thatand then when i start to go there with in couple day....he okay with it....then next thing or b4 that he told me he being hurt b4 one of his EX break his heart by dating internet and phone talk u know.... and then i felt bad about it and i told him iam not that way when i inlove with a person i will love that person for life....and then i ask him a question where did yr ex live and he told me his ex live in IN and isay what yr ex name and he say his ex is name Phuong and i say wowo i know a Phuong in IN tooo and u know what it a same person that break his heart....then he start question me and he say to me he afraid that iam like Phuong and a player and will team up and play with his heart... amd funny we have a same name.....andthen isay wowo iam not that kind of person. and we are a diff person tooo but he did not believe what i say..and still not believe me....he ask me again ame i a phuong it a same person i say no we are not and he ask for the prove of pic n i did try and send him some of my pics to him but once again his computer still not fix yet so what can i do b4 my fly... and then on the day b4 i start to fly to visit him and it about 8hrs my fly going to fly to NY he told me let take sometime and think about this first b4 we both meet....and he told me dont come.... then wowo i have to quick and call and cansel my fly right away.....tuff love right ehhehe...and i did and i felt sad that he did believe iam not that person.... about a week later he got his computer fix and ssee my pic and iam not that Phuong he talkingabout .... he felt sooo sorry and he ask me plzz give him a chance and let be friend again i say sure i give u a chance nothing wrong with it but there is a thing in there thati have for him my 100% inlovewith him is not haft and then it become less then haft and then in few week idid not felt that love of him any more....so i told him that my feeling for u it not there any more so i am sorry we just be friends.. he dont like the hearing of that but i dont have the feeling for it any more so i move on..... so there for yr situation is kinda like mind alittle because of the TRUST that being broken between two people... so u know what i mean if there are no more feeling and love for the person then why u want to be with that person anymore. if u do give him more chance then how about the love u have for him u dont have any much more of the love for him then how can u love him and stay with him...maybe u have to tell him that maybe u two should be friends and move on.....i hope this help.... wishing u the best....
mitzi
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Old 04-25-2013 , 02:16 PM     mitzi est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hi there.
Be strong and forgive him. I have a question. Do you think he would actually go out with her? Technically he didn't act on anything yet but it maybe spontaneous and new maybe thats why he wantes to pursue. I am not defending for him, but has he done this before?
Jennylam234
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Old 07-30-2013 , 05:49 PM     Jennylam234 est dconnect  search   Quote  
I think you no need to forgive this guy, luckily you are not married
Him yet and have no child. My situation is not online to find girlfriend,
But gamble, bad words, no care for family. I still live with
Him but no more sex, we like roommate, he is ok too. He care his
Pocket, will not use 1 cent for wife or children. He looks like two
Persons, sometime ok, sometime like devil, driving car always say
Bad words, well, my heart is dead, but i don't why i still here living in the house. I think I am a weak woman, dare to stand up.
I hope you strong, find someone love you, don't give chance for this
Guy, he will not change.
Best
lamthinh
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Old 07-31-2013 , 08:44 PM     lamthinh est dconnect  search   Quote  
Jenny....pls check ur pm .....you cant waste the rest of your life away like that!
lily100
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Old 09-16-2013 , 06:27 PM     lily100 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Maybe you can give him another chance.
After all, every people will make mistakes.
And you two also need communications from heart to heart.
DamTc
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Old 09-30-2013 , 03:36 PM     DamTc est dconnect  search   Quote  
If you have no responsibility, I would say end it. If you have kid\s, and feel like you can't live without him, ask for couple days without him to think about it.
Sowhoat32
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Old 08-12-2015 , 06:55 PM     Sowhoat32 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Don't get hurt. Get even. Give him chance. Continue to date him, while making yourself available for someone else who might be better. If you can't find anyone else, then stay with him. You see, his mistake is your gain.
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