Hi everyone. I’m 26. She’s 23. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Last Saturday she went clubbing with her female friends..it was the ladies’ night out. (She’s not a party girl at all.) On Sunday I saw a picture of her on one of her friends’ facebook..a picture of her kissing a guy. Kind of lips to lips. I got so mad and hurt I couldn’t even sleep that night, but I didn’t say anything until Monday, that was when I confronted her..I wanted to break up with her which I did..She cried like crazy…begged me to forgive her and give her a chance. She said she was probably drunk and didn’t know/remember a thing about it. I didn’t buy that. Now we’re over..but I feel so empty and sad..I’m trying to suck it up.. I haven’t really talked about it with anobody yet.…I’m not picking up her phone calls or responding her texts at all…what do you guys think I should do?? Please give me some advice.. We were good together..she’s a sweet, caring and beautiful girl but I now question her loyalty…people say “once a sl*t, always a sl*t” I wonder if that’s really true…buon chan wa di thoi…nhung co le rang khong the nao tro lai duoc dau.

I long for the warmth of days gone by when she was mine but now those days are just memories in time…

Thank you all for reading my thread…it’s almost 3am and I’m still up. I can’t sleep….i want to talk to some body…

hey dude sorry to hear that. my ex did that too me to and i dumped her ass. i felt bad for a whole year but got over it. i think you should give her a chance..and NEVER let her forget this.

and do her like a slut each nite...get her pregnant and then leave her:lol: :lol:

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.…I’m not picking up her phone calls or responding her texts at all…what do you guys think I should do??

…people say “once a sl*t, always a sl*t” I wonder if that’s really true…buon chan wa di thoi…nhung co le rang khong the nao tro lai duoc dau. [/QUOTE]
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Hi my friend!

You do the right thing that "I’m not picking up her phone calls or responding her texts at all." My question is HAVE YOU ONCE KNOWN HER FROM THE CLUB FOR THE LAST 8 MONTHS? The more you are talking with her, the more it brings back to memories of the old days. There are several things that you shoud do:

1) Don't neither attempt to contact her anymore by phone nor through emails.

2) Try to forget good memories between you two even though it is a very hard thing to do, says to yourself that "I can do it, I can do it ... a couple times!"

3) Time will release your pain, at the same time, find a new and better girl for yourself either at schools, workplaces, or some public places, but not at the clubs. Girls at the clubs are young and beautiful, but they have usually taken and belonged to somebody else.

4) Don't neither pick girls at the clubs and then take them home to be as your long-term girlfriends nor wives. Kiss some other girls at the clubs in front of your ex if you can.

5) Don't try to revenge her by getting her pregnant due to long-term child support, 18 years. Take care, you are gonna be alright man!

[QUOTE=DarkSkyCali] (She’s not a party girl at all.) We were good together..she’s a sweet, caring and beautiful girl but I now question her loyalty…people say “once a sl*t, always a sl*t” I wonder if that’s really true…buon chan wa di thoi…nhung co le rang khong the nao tro lai duoc dau.

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You really owe it to yourself to let her explain herself and what happened, there is no right or wrong decision but an individual decision to make after hearing it. If you are not happy with the explanation, then you can walk but at least you have some answers.

Hi anh DSC.
"(She’s not a party girl at all.) "
"She said she was probably drunk and didn’t know/remember a thing about it."hihihihihihihihihihihhihiihhihiih
Anh làm gì mà hửu lậu wá vậy,chỉ có hôn thôi mà,chưa tới bến mà.Nếu có bỏ sao không chơi cho đả đi rồi bỏ.

Chia tay là một nghệ thuật, đôi khi không thể phó mặc cho cảm xúc tự nhiên, bạn cần lí trí một chút.

Cụm từ “nguyên tắc chiến tranh” nghe thật buồn cườị Vậy có những quy tắc nào tương tự như chiến tranh không? Theo một cách hiểu nào đố thì tình yêu cũng giống như chiến tranh và giai đoạn hỗn độn nhất trong tình yêu chính là khi chia taỵ Bạn vật lộn với chính bản thân mình là tại sao lại chia tay và làm sao để giải quyết hậu họa này đâỵ Một điều đáng sợ là tất cả mọi người lại có cái lí riêng của từng người khi muốn chia taỵ

Tôi đã chia tay với cô ấy nhưng tôi vẫn còn tình cảm với cô ấỵ Vậy tôi có nên nói với cô ấy điều đó không?

Nguyên tắc: Không! Người ta thường làm vừa lòng nhau bằng những câu nói như “ Anh/em chia tay em/anh nhưng anh/em vẫn còn yêu em/anh”. Tránh sử dụng từ " yêu" khi hai bạn đã nói lời chia tay trừ khi bạn nói rằng “ anh/em đã yêu một người khác không phải là em/anh”. Hãy để mọi thứ lắng xuống và đừng nói với người ấy bạn đã phải khổ sở như thế nào khi phải chia taỵ Nếu như điều đó làm bạn đau khổ thì liệu bạn có chia tay không?.:2kiss1 :inlove :love :hug

You do not need any explanation or answer from her as everything is clear as night and day unless you're an idiot who ask for proof
all the time and does not understand what other people meant when they do something and wait for their own words ... and believe it !
One need to accept the fact that clubbing girls will try other guys ...
Her friends probably influencing her on these party nights, unless she accepted that it's a one time mistake and quit hanging around with this
group of friends, she will go again without your knowledge ! take these girls lightly in relationship.

You should give the relationship another chance if she expresses remorse. However, 2 things must result from this episode.

1. She must know blaming it on the alcohol is not acceptable. Whoever makes a mistake, just own up to it. No excuses are good enough for any mistake. Any explanation will just make the "sinner" look more stupid.

2. You trust her, but why put your absolute trust in anyone? Keep an eye and an ear open at all time for anyone. People tend to disappoint you.

There is absolutely nothing more irritating than saying you are so drunk that you don't remember anything. This excuse makes the person look dumb and stupid even when it is true. Where is the judgment? What if a nut case kills you? He could end up in prison for life, but you are....I don't know.... freaking DEAD. So boys and girls, this is a bad excuse. Don't use it in any circumstances.

I feel your pain my friend. I'm in the same shoe as you, but only worse! I read my girlfriend's emails to a guy that she's been cheating with behind my back. The emails tell everything in details about their sexual relationship. I was devastated, hurt and heartbroken. I couldn't eat or sleep for days until I finally had the courage to confront her. Believe me, it wasn't easy to walk away from a 3 year relationship. I thought she was the one for me, I thought she was the girl I was going to marry. But all went to waste and I have to start all over again.

I do believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. A slut will always be a slut. I've read a lot of stories about men who forgive their gf/wives and try to make things work out, but only to have a bad out come. its the truth my friend, its almost impossible to work out a relationship after cheating has been involved.

All we can do now is keep busy and get support from family and friends. And let time heal our pains. Good luck my friend.

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I agree with whomever said giving her a chance.

Relationship is a long journey, people fall and get up. It is your turn to show that you can forget it for 1 time. Time will show if she really regrets the incidence, and you will eventually let it go.

If it's not meant to be, you will see it in her. Time is always the best remedy but it works damn slow .

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I think she was rolling on E. more than drunk...

That usually happens, when they do... girls just want to be held by men and men just want to have girls in their arms...
and one thing lead to another... everything out of control... until the next day, then they realize what happened...

I think it depends how much you love her... give her a chance
if you think you really love her...

Ladies’ night out to pick up guys. That guy slept with her already.

She probably spent the night with that guy too.

Give the chance to good and innocient girl, not a sl*t!!!!
Was the guy Mỹ Đen?

hahahhahahahaha you're a lil btch.

different story if she kissed a girl?

câu hỏi của bro luumanhthait làm tqn cươì mún té ghế .

bro darksky dùng từ nặng với bạn gái wá dzị . nếu quen 8 tháng mà lầm lỡ một lần , ngươì ta đã xin lỗi thì ...tha thứ đi . từ nay về sau đừng cho bạn gái đi chơi với mí cô kia nữa, nếu đi thì bro darksky hộ tống . đờn ông thì khoan dụng rộng lượng tí đi cho bạn gái nhờ :D

hey guys, i really thank you all for giving such good advices...Anyway, til today i still have not spoken to her since the break up. This morning when i went to work..she was outside my house waiting in thar car..she got out and started explaining more and more... i told her i still love her but i have to go to work, i can't be late..WE ARE OVER. Even in the beginning of the relationship i told her one wrong move could lead to a dead end and obviously her move was too damn wrong. I have thought about giving her a second chance but the thought of what happened will always be on the back of my mind. Now i can never forget about what happened but i can ignore it. I will not get back with her anymore even though she has a lot to offer. I can't focus/concentrate on anything now...but it is what it is. SAD:: =[ only time will tell.

LuuManhThaiT Give the chance to good and innocient girl, not a sl*t!!!!
Was the guy Mỹ Đen?
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No, bro. the guy was asian.

all i can say this "you did the right thing"

very proud of you.

dumped that *****.

i mean "dumped that bi/tch"

U guys are hecka mean! give the poor gal a second chance anh Cali...We all make mistakes in life. If you don't give her a chance then how can she prove that she has changed...

I think you should give her a chance to explain what happened. A kissed on the lips is not that big deal. maybe she had too much to drink like she said she did. people tend to do crazy things when they are drunk. Maybe she was drunk and just having fun. Đừng vì những chuyên nhỏ mà làm mất tình cảm giữa hai ngươi. She seem to care a lot for you if not she wouldn't wait for you at your front đoor like that. best of luck