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Bun'
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Old 08-03-2012 , 02:49 PM     Bun' est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Men are pigs mà ... . Trust me ...
không có đâu Why

Men or Women cũng vậy
có nguời cheat nguời không
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Old 08-03-2012 , 02:59 PM     Why??? est dconnect  search   Quote  
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không có đâu Why

Men or Women cũng vậy
có nguời cheat nguời không
Đâu có nói là cheat .. Ý mình là men bị con gái dụ dổ thì ai ai cũng bị phân tâm, manh động lắm chứ .. Còn cheat hay không là chuyện khác ..

Còn ông nào mà nói không có bị cám dổ (temptation) và phân vân khi có người để ý thì là dối lòng đó ..
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Old 08-03-2012 , 03:36 PM     OC HOUNG est dconnect  search   Quote  
Read story của bottle up .. Sao thấy Chua chát và đắng cay quá .. Thật tình mà nói nếu mình bị như her mình cũng hong biết tính làm sao .. Nhưng one thing i should to know là he sex với ai ??
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Old 08-03-2012 , 03:39 PM     OC HOUNG est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Đâu có nói là cheat .. Ý mình là men bị con gái dụ dổ thì ai ai cũng bị phân tâm, manh động lắm chứ .. Còn cheat hay không là chuyện khác ..

Còn ông nào mà nói không có bị cám dổ (temptation) và phân vân khi có người để ý thì là dối lòng đó ..
Some how tui có feeling he sex ưith guy not girl
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Old 08-03-2012 , 03:48 PM     Chi'nLa^mLi est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Men are pigs mà ... . Trust me ...
men are no pigs ........men orgasm took only few seconds....pigs orgasm took 30 min .........ddu*`ng co' mo*
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Old 08-03-2012 , 07:24 PM     tdan est dconnect  search   Quote  
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I meant when a man is lonely by himself or stress at home .. it is a big temptation for him to cheat .. Because Man is man ..
Bác Why nói cũng có cái lý nhưng bác nên nói rõ hơn là temptation thì có nhưng ở tới cái level nào mà làm cho ng ta phải cross the line ?
Đương nhiên là tuỳ theo ng mà coi sự chống cự với cái temptation đó mạnh hay yếu

Nếu 1 ng mà hồi trẻ đã ăn chơi playboy sành đời rùi thì sẽ có nhiều kinh nghiệm hơn và có thể sẽ dể handle với cám dổ

Còn ngược lại 1 ng mà lúc nhỏ chưa biết mùi đời mấy , bây giờ có chút tiền thì dể bị xa ngã hơn

Just my 2 cents

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Old 08-03-2012 , 07:38 PM     newface est dconnect  search   Quote  
Give the guy a second chance. At least, he had already admitted his guilt and did apologize to you. He also said he loved you and the kid.
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Old 08-03-2012 , 07:39 PM     HunnyBunny est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Read story của bottle up .. Sao thấy Chua chát và đắng cay quá .. Thật tình mà nói nếu mình bị như her mình cũng hong biết tính làm sao .. Nhưng one thing i should to know là he sex với ai ??
I like your response the most Chi OC Huong. Bottled_Up's story and situation sounds so heart breaking, devastating and scary... I too, would "Khong biet tinh sao luon!!.. Bo thi thuong, ma vuong thi toi...."

Bottled_Up: I would not dare imagine this happening to me, because I dont know if I can find the strength to stay strong like you.... Hopefully this will be like what old folks says "Khuc quanh cua cuoc song/2 nguoi" ...
It's easy to say leave the bastard, and take everything.. I would say that too.. but with all honestly, I think you are doing the RIGHT thing... unless he gets worst, then please .. please u should "Cut your Losses"

*Dude I just had a baby too!!

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Old 08-03-2012 , 09:45 PM     BF online est dconnect  search   Quote  
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always think of partner first before doing anything ...


I'm not for sure & we r just assuming even the owner of this thread that her husband had sex with some1.
If íts true the question is, does he or did he think of his partner first before doing it w/ some1 else ?


Sex is sex .....the sex is right in front of him which is from his wife offering ....I don't get it ? What turns him OFF ?

Hoping he is not turning gay Or hoping/wishing he wife does the sex like prost. going down south dirty on him to turn him ON .....Come on .....

Jeez ...the guy might b loosing the treasures ...

Yah I think ur marriage needs to seek prof. advise then go from there.

Wish you the best outcomes.
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Old 08-04-2012 , 02:41 AM     cdoan est dconnect  search   Quote  
Too easy to jump to conclusion. Men have condoms with them; that is a sign of responsibility. It is just an intention and nothing else. Men are not guilty by the thought of doing so.
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Old 08-04-2012 , 02:43 AM     cdoan est dconnect  search   Quote  
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men are no pigs ........men orgasm took only few seconds....pigs orgasm took 30 min .........ddu*`ng co' mo*
Now I wish to be a pig....................................
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Old 08-04-2012 , 02:50 AM     NgocNhi est dconnect  search   Quote  
Tha thứ thì sẻ có 1 gia đình vui vẻ, hạnh phuc, nhưng noi thiệt, sẻ kho quên, không bao giờ quên .

Không tha thư, sẻ buồn, nhưng rồi sẻ quên, neu còn trẻ, sẻ làm lại từ đầu, biet đâu sẻ gặp người tot hơn
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Old 08-04-2012 , 02:50 AM     cdoan est dconnect  search   Quote  
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CH nói lời thật đó sugar, babe

Minh có đọc nhiều về mấy chuyện này rồi.

Đàn ông ko cấn phải yeu mới làm chuyện đó đâu....là sinh lý ....là needs đó....ko nhât thiết dính líu gì tới tình yeu cả.... Oh well, that's the way men are....u can't live with them, you can't live without them...what r we supposed to do.....we can't beat them, let's just join them


Chi KK, chị dễ cảm súc quá ha.....e chẳng bít nghĩ sao, hình như ko có gì đối với e là quan trọng lắm...có đó, mất đó....đau sót để làm gì, buồn chút rồi qua.....one door closes, another opens...
The same goes to women. If you live around military base, you must notice that many women try to pick up men when their husbands deployed.

And of course what the men do in the fields stay in the fields.

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Old 08-04-2012 , 03:35 AM     Trucvi07 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Bottle_up sis , Sorry to hear about your situation. I have a friend with similar problem. Her hubby is the quiet type as well, and he appears to be a perfect husband. They have a big house and great jobs and have two wonderful children. Their kids look beautiful. But, they are not happy. She did not have sex with her hubby for over a year now, and of course he gave her the same excuses. He's tired from work, stress, and others crap. She feels disconnected from him and wants to fix the relationship, but not sure how to go about it. Later on, she found out that he cheated on her with another woman. They have been texting and seeing each other’s for over a year now. However, he denied the whole thing and not willing to talk about it with her. I suggested they need to seek professional help. Like your husband, he did not believe in seeking professional help as well. Every time, I see her she would cried her eyes out. And I can tell she is stressed out and emotionally unstable. Since her hubby is unwilling to seek help, I told her to confront him about it and talk to him. Communication is so important in every relationship. According to her, when she tried to talk to him about it he just brushed her off. I told her that relationship is like an orchid. Its need some sun light but not direct sun light, water once a week, potting mixture and some tender loving care and eventually new root will grows and you will have beautiful orchid. But if you don't take care of it, the leaves will become yellow; the branches will dried out and your orchid is doom. She has two options: either stay or get out. In the end, she decided to give him a second chance, and forget about past and move forward with their lives. She started to take care of her orchid. She knows exactly what’s going on with her orchid. Now, every time I go to her house her I admire her beautiful orchid. My point is, regardless of what people tell you in this forum in the end you have to make the decision what you want to do with your life. If you want to save your marriage and continue with the relationship and move forward, then give him another chance and forget about what happened. It’s in the past. But if the lawyer in you need to find out what’s exactly what happened and your hubby is unwilling to provide you the answer then there will always be that disconnect and both of you can’t move forward. If that is the case, then you will never be happy. Someone has to give in in order for a marriage to work. Learn to forgive and forget and move on. If you can’t, then get out of the relationship and start a new chapter of your life with your new baby. Who knows? You will meet someone in the future since you’re still young. Wish you the best of luck.
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Old 08-04-2012 , 06:47 AM     Asiajc est dconnect  search   Quote  
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If you want to save your marriage and continue with the relationship and move forward, then give him another chance and forget about what happened. It’s in the past. But if the lawyer in you need to find out what’s exactly what happened and your hubby is unwilling to provide you the answer then there will always be that disconnect and both of you can’t move forward. If that is the case, then you will never be happy. Someone has to give in in order for a marriage to work. Learn to forgive and forget and move on. If you can’t, then get out of the relationship and start a new chapter of your life with your new baby. Who knows? You will meet someone in the future since you’re still young. Wish you the best of luck.

Hi Bottled Up, I am sorry to hear of your problem. Like the others, I would not know what to do if I am in your shoes. If it happens to me, I would like to know the truth too. I can forgive but I just need to hear the truth, to hear him admitting that's he was wrong, to hear him say he is sorry, so that I know that I can trust him again, to prove that he is not a liar and is honest to me. It would be a huge relief to hear the truth because I can finally stop guessing. I would know the dynamic of the situation and from there, I am able to obtain information that I think would help me improve my marriage and prevent this from happening again. However, life does not always give you a straight answer and you may not be able to get the truth from him right now and that is something you may have to live with and need to find a way to deal with right now since he is unwilling to tell you. Okay, my laziness just kick in so I am just going to go straight to the point. You may need to accept what he is and is not telling you, and handle the situation from there. That way, he does not feel the pressure you are putting on him, which may push him farther from you.

You may have to think, okay, he is not giving me what I need to know, but I want this marriage to work (or I don't want this marriage anymore) so my next step is ... (This method is a one way street, which means you are only working with yourself. You change therefore that person changes.)

Another one is talk to the guy. I am not sure what you have been talking about with him so I don't know what to suggest, but if you have not tried yet, perhaps you can tell him (when you are calm) that you don't work well with ambiguity and that you are unable to connect the dots. You know that he cares about you and the kid and that he wants to keep and protect the family, blah blah blah, and that you think he is perfect husband, (you know, tell him something that he would like to hear) and end by telling him that it's okay that he made a mistake, but you would like him to admit it. (anyhow, hope you get the idea)

You know when I first read your threat, I can't swallow it at all because it appears to me that you have a really big ego that you are unable to keep in check. I thought that education is supposed to improve our perception so that we could improve society and help our family? If it can't help, what use does it have? So I am unable to connect what you said about "smart woman" and "dumb wife" because honestly, I don't see how being a "dumb wife" will help a marriage at all. I think that in any situation, a person needs to be flexible and adaptable to be able to deal with it, and both of these characters are indicators that a person is intelligent. I guess what I mainly want to say is that right now, I feel that you need to calm down, step back, and "listen" to your husband and your marriage. And by listen here, I don't mean that anyone has to talk. Like someone else said, you are a very passionate person, that is a good trait, but it can also hurt you if you are not flexible with it.

Like any advice, my advice is short, general, and very biased. It is based on my experiences and perceptions of you (what I conclude about you in only a few posts that you wrote) so of course it may not work for you. I think that even if your husband does not go to therapy, you should go alone. At the very least, it would help with all your emotional right now. You would have someone to talk to and support you through this. Plus, once you change and resolve your issues, your new energy may trigger your husband to change.
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Old 08-04-2012 , 08:13 AM     emneedhelp est dconnect  search   Quote  
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.....e chẳng bít nghĩ sao, hình như ko có gì đối với e là quan trọng lắm...có đó, mất đó....đau sót để làm gì, buồn chút rồi qua.....one door closes, another opens...
Sis biết được điều này là sis ngộ được vô thường rồi, mọi chuyện sẽ chẳng cột sis được
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Old 08-04-2012 , 04:03 PM     Chi'nLa^mLi est dconnect  search   Quote  
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Chi KK, chị dễ cảm súc quá ha.....e chẳng bít nghĩ sao, hình như ko có gì đối với e là quan trọng lắm...có đó, mất đó....đau sót để làm gì, buồn chút rồi qua.....one door closes, another opens...
co' bao gio*\ open 3 doors at once hong
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Old 08-04-2012 , 05:17 PM     mytranga est dconnect  search   Quote  
Too much confusing. If I were you, I wanted to know when, where, whom he used those.
You need an answer for your question. How about he could not make it because his ...
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