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sjsad06
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 16 |
05-17-2006
, 11:01 AM
thanks for reading...
I met him and felt in love with him. After about 3 months, he told me he has a gf. It's really shock me but I still continue in relationship with him since I still love him. I never told him has to end with other girl. I did ask him who he loves the most. He said he loves both. This is really urgly..... I know. But I still want to be with him. Eventhough, I am very very sad and hurt. Since the other girl lives far away, so he just visit her about once a month. We keep this 3-way relationship for about 2 years. I rarely asked him about the other girl and he never told me anything neither. I respect their relationship so I didn't ask much about them. Even when I know he come to visit her. I am really sad and hurt but still quietly and let him go. I am dating with him but in front of our friend, we're pretending like we're just friend. I ofcourse , don't like it. But he does want to act that way. I asked him why he said because he still in relationship with other girl. But actually none of our friend knows about other girl and just kind of question about our relationship. I understand love is just giving. I accept to be like that with him for more than 2 yrs. I keep questioning myself, am I giving too much? What do I get in return? Do I blind in love? One day, I call off the relationship. He told me he already break up with the other girl. Things turn out I thought would be better...but...we continue in relationship for another years. I am ready to get marry.... but he is not. I thought maybe he doesn't love me much. I want to break up with him but it's not that easy. He still call me and ...I can't refuse him. Now come to my family attention. My parents want us to get marry. My parents did ask him but he told me....still same answer..he is not ready yet.......I feel so tired of this relationship....from begining...to now...I just hate to make my parent feel sad and feel bad for their daughter. I have been hurt and sad...but don't want my parents be too... Well...sorry for such a long story....Thanks for reading and sharing your thought! |
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Younggun007
Super Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Số Điểm: 15125 |
05-17-2006
, 11:05 AM
Yes and you're too desparate, stupid, and have no pride in you for spreading your legs to the guy who has a gf already. You're just his sex toy. Just enjoy your fun while you're young.
Last edited by Younggun007; 05-17-2006 at 11:35 AM.. |
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patheticio
Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Số Điểm: 252 |
05-17-2006
, 11:13 AM
Love is never having to ask yourself:
"What do you get in return?" |
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TraiLauX
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 190 |
05-17-2006
, 11:19 AM
Take a time off and stop seeing him for a while. You will see what you have to do.. Trust me!
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AHung
Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Số Điểm: 37 |
05-17-2006
, 11:34 AM
You've been PLAYED!
Played on you once is shame of him; played on you twice is shame on you. |
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MaNuVoTinh
Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Số Điểm: 698 |
05-17-2006
, 03:07 PM
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Ur too weak, stupid (yes u r), having no self-respect or dignity 4 urself ("agree to b/ w a guy who already got a gf", have u ever think of how dirty it is to have xxx w/ him knowing that last time he did the same thing w/ another girl???) U r too stupid (yes, u r), n even said: i never asked about the other girl cuz i respect their relationship. God, how lame is that... U've getting hurt cuz u asked 4 it, y dun u just b strong 4 once n walk out of that so-called relationship???? Otherwise, keep enjoying the pain n waste ur youth. **Candie** |
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HuongHoa
Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Số Điểm: 925 |
05-17-2006
, 03:46 PM
If I were you...
It's time to break up with this guy. You have been with him three years, and he hasn't change. I guess he's still contact with his gf in a different state. Since you don't want your parents to worry about you, you should forget him ASAP. He's not worth it. He doesn't deserve you. Yes, love is blind, but you are not to blind in love yet. You still raise the reasonable questions, and re-consider your relationship. Think about most unhappy moments and actions that he brought to you. Change your number, and do whatever for not meeting him. You can find as many guys as you want, but you have only one parents. So don’t let your parents are being upset b/c of this greedy guy. Act strong, and leave him. Your life will be much better without this man. Good luck, sis. |
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LoVeDoCtor
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 8 |
05-17-2006
, 04:01 PM
Omg girl, what on earth where you thinking about?? You are definitely wasting your time. I can't believe people these days, if a guy is no good, then leave him. Obviously it wasn't a healthy relastionship. That bastard wasn't faithful, don't even considered marrying him. What make you think you will have a perfect future in the long run. Beside you and the other girl, he probably has someone else.
How could you fall in love with someone like that. I'm sure you haven't met the real man, or experience true love right? From what I heard from your story, that relationship was hell. If he really loves you, 1.) there would only be you 2.) if he was a real truthful man, he would marry you 3.) he wouldn't be a cheating son of a b**** Forget his calls, don't even bother, it's 2006, com'on now, we're not living back in the days, you have your own choice. Life will not be hard without him, there are always plenty of other guys, what make you think he will make you happy and later? |
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Ugly_Duck
Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Số Điểm: 24 |
05-17-2006
, 04:43 PM
Quetion. I broke up with this guy who I have shared ups and downs in years. He asked to remain friendship which I think a little awkward but I agreed at the time. But now he acted so bossy, and I guess he thinks I cannot live without him. I am sick and tired of that and decide to cut off everything. Should I just leave in quiet and not to asnwer call or should I tell him I will be vanishing in his life?
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vi3t4life904
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 6 |
05-17-2006
, 08:25 PM
i think you should should just give your self sometime and give other people a chance .STOP settling for less when there's more out there waiting on you ..
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PacificOcean
Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Số Điểm: 44 |
05-18-2006
, 01:18 AM
if i were you.....i would...đặp đầu vô tường chết khuất cho rồi đúng là hết nói
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oh baby baby
Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 840 |
05-18-2006
, 01:34 AM
sjsad06 ,
You dont respect urself, how can u expect s.o to do so? take it as a lesson. |
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Bluebaby
Loyal Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Số Điểm: 1236 |
05-18-2006
, 02:27 AM
I think its funny when people said "if i were you", personally i think there is no if i were you i would dump the guy ...Each people handle the realtionship different from the others....such as; i wouldn't understand how you feel when your bf is treating you bad or abuse you because i never been through that. Sis SJsad06, You are doing the right thing at least now. You asked him to step up another level of your relationship and he said he is not ready yet. His asnwer gave you a clue that you should move on with your life and settle with someone else. Most girls don't want to waste their times with someone that have no future with. Although, its gonna be terrible and cost alot of times/tears, but you know where you'r heading from now on. Rather than stay in a relationship that you don't know where is heading to. For more, you wouldn't mind being the third person, but that was before. What about after he agrees to marry you? you can't garrantee that he will be loyal and faithful to you since he knew your weakness.
Oh one more thing, don't get marry if you don't get a marriage certificate..just to be sure that you guys are legally married. well, at leat this is what i think. Goodluck with your decision and think wise |
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thythy2005
Gold Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Số Điểm: 2296 |
05-18-2006
, 10:44 AM
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Move on...sis... |
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Who_Am_I
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 13 |
05-18-2006
, 10:49 AM
SJ_Sad,
You sound nice and sweet! Not many girl like you exist in this society any more! You care too much for other people’s feeling (your boyfriend, your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend, your parents...)!  People may think you are weak and silly, but I think you are an “unbeatable fighter”! I think your boyfriend broke up with his ex-girlfriend partly (mostly?) because of comparing the personalities between you and his ex-girlfriend. You beat the other girl away without fighting! And I don’t know if any of his future girlfriend would survive with this type of fighting! I think your boyfriend is still in the stage of choosing. He might be hoping to find a girl with your personality in Tara’s body  ! I don’t know how long it would be for him to pass this stage and seriously think about a family for his own! You might be a big loser after all! You might think over about these:-Is he worth it to fight for? Time passes by very quick, your youth will be gone, the chance for him to marry you would be less (younger girls will attract him more). Will he have an affair after (if) he marry you? Are there nicer men out there besides your boyfriend? So on.... -If you still want to bet your life for this man :(, then I think you should push him a little more. You might want to slowly “disclose” your relationship to relatives, cousins, friends, by: asking him to go with you to your family’s occasions (dinners, birthday parties, newyear, etc.), his family’s occasions, friends’ parties (wedding, engagement, babyshower...). He might not like this, therefore, you should do this naturally, incidently, whatever...ly, not so obvious! Push him to join your family’s activities like asking him for helps (things need his knowledges, skills that your Dad or brothers “can not” handle). Well, there is nothing you can do if your boyfriend is a “cold hearted” person. Suggestions need to be applied per case. I wish you all the lucks!  |
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sjsad06
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 16 |
05-18-2006
, 11:13 AM
I just want to thank you so much for all of your advice, suggestions, inputs. It 's really big help for me.
Thanks to Who_Am_I. Thanks for all your kind words about me which I've never realized without you're saying... All your suggestions have given me more strong to overcome with this...Thanks! |
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Who_Am_I
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 13 |
05-19-2006
, 08:07 AM
SJ_Sad,
You are very wẹo càm!  |
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sjsad06
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 16 |
05-19-2006
, 10:42 AM
I am trying to run away from him. I didn't pick up the phone. He came to my house. I asked him leave...He still continue to send me message and pretending like nothing happens.....
What should I tell him? I want to be either a healthy relationship that we can talk about our future or just totally off. I am hurting...but I am trying to forget ..but if he's doing this...how could I be in peace and forgot about him....I don't know what he really wants... I did talk to him many times already ...doesn't work...He still want to do whatever he wants to....and..the hard thing is I know I should try to forget about him...but I can't really hate him...4 years in relationship..it 's hard to turn your back into that person with hate feeling..... |
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HuongHoa
Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Số Điểm: 925 |
05-19-2006
, 11:04 AM
Maybe...
Tell him if he respects you, he should give you sometimes off to think over or to be alone. |
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MaNuVoTinh
Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Số Điểm: 698 |
05-19-2006
, 02:13 PM
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If yes, then i got nutting to say. But remember that, u will never b happy w/ a guy like that, even dating or marriage. U think he will change cuz he finally realize that ur a "too good gf" then ur wrong. In my opinion, "nguời đàn ông này chưa hề iu bạn lúc đầu, đã LỢI DỤNG bạn MỘT CÁCH TRẮNG TRỢN như vậy thì sẽ không bao giờ biết yêu bạn thực sự đâu" (hope u can read Viet) If no, then u gotta b stronger. Change ur #, dun open the door. If he continues to bother u, tell him in a strong voice: I dun wanna have anything to do w/ u, stop bothering me. Or if u can, take a vacation sumwhere to relax, get sum fresh air to get over this rotten relationship. Wish u luck n much much courage to overcome this mess. **Candie** |
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