I knew he hung out with his friends last night, drinking at the bar, because I were coincidently there with my friends and saw him but I didn't come by to say hi since he told me on the phone previously he stays home and sleep early to go to work early the next day. I don't understand why he has to lie to me, it's not like I don't like him to hang out with his friends but I'm more concerned of his health (he has been drinking 2-3x a week) but why he has to lie if he hang out with his friends. If your b/f doing that to you girl, what would you do? Confont him that you see him, or just quietly let it slip through....or wait till he's in the good mood, and talk to him in sweetly manner without being a B**** or piss off tone.

Well, just pretend that you didn't see him at that place and tell him that you was there, and see what he say. If he admit that he were there then ask him why did he lie. If he say, really...did you have fun?? then SMACK at him Left to Right.

Dont worry, leave him and be with me

I'll forever tell you the truth

if my bf lies to me...i would be mad at him. but then i would talk to him in a firm voice, telling him that i know he was at the bar drinking with his buddy and im fine with it. i would just ask him why would he lies to me for? and so on. if he said something really hurtful or b1tchy then slap him and walk out. if he loves you, he'll call you up and apologize. =] if not then forget him. there are other hot young men out there to crab

i dunno why he has to lie.
if it were me, i would not lie

Tell your bf that you have something bothering you and you'd like to talk to him about it. Tell him you saw him at the bar with his friends and ask him why he could not tell you the truth. Tell him that you are ok with him going out with his friends once in a while but you are hurt that he doesn't trust you enough to say the truth. A loving relationship requires trust for it to succeed. For one side to lie, it breaks that trust.

If your boyfriend lied to you to go out to have a drink with his matez, then maybe he has a drinking problem. But the central issue is that he lied to you and you know about it. Confrontation will get the best results. Being nice to someone who betrayed you merely weakens your position and communicates to him that it is alright to lie to you because you will forgive him and he can get away with it. Ask him directly about why he was there and why he felt the need to lie about it. Perhaps there is a good reason for why he was there without being truthful to you about it. Give him a chance to explain. If you dont like what you hear, then start questioning why you are in a relationship with someone who lies to you. Then figure out whether you want to forgive and forget and hope it doesnt happen again, or just to ditch his lying ass.

You're the reason why some guy hate dating....you ladies become too controlling

if this situation happens to me..i'll sit down with my boyfriend and see what he has to say...theres no need to lie about something like that unless hes trying to hide something from you..honesty is very important when it comes to relationship..

It's a little white lie! Get over it! I suppose that's why I'm single; I'll drink when I'm alone or with people. Actually I prefer alcohol to women; I don't have to deal with all that crap in the morning.

really? prefer alcohol over women? even attractive ones?

Be honest with him and confront him what u saw.

You said you don't mind that he goes out. but you worry about his health because he's frinking 2 - 3x every week. Is he just having a few beers or getting really drunk a few times every week. Sometimes women try to get guys to change to be more like what they want. They think they are just talking to them nice or are just doing it for his own good. Maybe for you it's him not drinking as much. Maybe when he's going out he's not getting really drunk and he feels that you are trying to comtrol him. Maybe he feels if he told you, that you would try to tell him not to go and have a beer. We know our girlfreinds love us and want us to be better people. but we don't want to be controlled or to be told what to do. It makes us feel like we're just little kids that even have to ask permission to go to the bathroom. If you try to control what he does too much, he'll feel like you belive that he is stupid, useless, and whatever he thinks doesd not matter. You may be doing this with the best intentions, but the man usually feels like there is a cloud over his head. Remember that he is a real person, not someone to play house with.
Talk to him, and tell him that you are not trying to control him, it will work....

he lies to you b/c he can.

leave him.

Little white lies usually lead to bigger lies down the road if one gets away with them.

Honesty and trust is a virtue.

men lies...har har har 9/10 things he say = lies ...har har har the onli thing that is true is that he has a CON __ har har har

when u talk to him the next day just act stupid and ask if he dream about u last nite. then talk about ur friends issues about their bfs lies and blab..blah..and see what his position is with it. Afterwards, tell him why honesty should be important and ask if he had ever lie to u. See if he tells u the truth after u say all that crap. If he doesn't confess about what he did after u did all that talk then u know what kind of person he is already.

My ex was like that too. I forgave him a couple of times and i got really sick of it afterwards. So i just ended the relationship. To be very frank with, u can never really change a person. What u see is waht u get. if he was a good man, he would've just told u straight up and not worry about how u will react because he believes that women should like him for who he is. he's being true to himself. teh one that tries to please u too much are the sweet talkers and bs a whole lot.

hi simplevnguy..how are ya?

Well...maybe after he talked to you his friend ask him to hang out with them...don't confront him that you saw him yet..but asked him "What time did u went to bed last night" and go from there

dreammaker88, that's an excellent advice.
Don't ignore the problem. If you do then he will continue to lie to you in the future. Talk to him in a calm manner. Good luck.