Please, please, please help. Lately, I've been hanging out with this friend more than before because i'm kind of free now. Anyhow, I think he got the wrong idea. He sent me an email and asked me out. And I know he gonna ask me in person soon.

I don't want to loose our friendship because i like him dearly as a friend. I like hanging out with him but I'm afraid he'll like me even more if we continue hanging out. I really don't want to hurt him. What should I say or do?

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Why can't i have any guy friends???????

i'll be your guy friend, with benefits of course =D

you dont have to say anything, just keep turning him down when he ask you out and he'll understand. unless he cant take a hint of course

Friends with benefit.............................

If you don't want to hurt his feeling, be honest with him to avoid any confusion and heartache later.

Just tell him that you JUST want to be FRIEND only and nothing more.

RedPatent,

What the #$@#$@??? Are you living in nha que Vietnam?


This is America. Get used to it. If you don't like it go back to Vietnam and live with Viet Cong. I really hate traditional Phong Kien girls. The year is 2.0.0.8 not the 3rd century, than dieu dai hiep.

UocMoCuaEm,

My advice for you is to keep it honest and be a straight shooter. No lies and do not lead him on. Just tell him straight up that I see you as a friend and only that. If he's stupid enough to hate you for that then this moron does not even deserve to be your friend.

yeah, your situation same as mine. That is why i really becareful with male friends. Even though i dont hang out with gurl, but i still need some one can forgive and openmind for me to "tam su" but somehow they dont listen. They love to chasing.

well, you need to talk to him less, hang out less, and dont start something that give him any chance to ask you. This happended to me already and i dont know what do say. I just said that i am not ready and balh balh balh....say something that reasonable.

goodluck.

Don't make up or take shower. Then he will run away from you!

Bad advice, this will drive the guy MAD or even worse, he would even try harder!

Just tell him this: I dont know how you think of me, but I want to tell this first to avoid misunderstanding, I really like you but as a friend only, so I want to go out with you but I want our relationship to friends level only..... I really like going out with you... but I dont know what you think about what I just said....

(when going out with him, make sure dont let him pay for everything, of course he might wanna pay more often but not everything)

hehehe....

Another dumb post! still too naive!

Tell him you do not find him attractive...

Tell him "you lost me at Hello".

Lady,
No guy wants to be friends with a female, unless of course, he's gay. This is the only exception.
This is an impossibility. Men and women weren't meant to be friends ... sex always come in between them.

Sure, you may start out as friends, joking and playing around, then you get a little closer, then there's physical contact and his body responds naturally. Then you both end up in bed ... and that's it. You can't never be just friends again, it's too awkward.
Trust me, I'm the Love Guru.

Peace out.

lolz this is actually a really tough one...guys will never just simply wanna be your best bud/ hangout bud or whatever. there's always that small bit of chemistry that makes it hard for us to just simply be your friend, "some takes a little long to jump to that opportunity, others will simply ride their time when the opportunity comes' if you know what i mean...at least ive had this experience many many years and seen many many guys who feel the same way. ive only seen bede who can truly be a gal best friend, other than that we all want something out of being nice to you (honestly)...i think you should just completely ignore the guy and let him go find his own who knows wat...you know he doesn't just want to be your best friend. Please just TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ASAP OR JUST IGNORE HIM COMPLETELY...........

good luck...i hope no guys will come to this confusion !:(

ay stop dissing all the single guys. i'm single i wanna find a female friend, a friend is a friend. AND I"M NOT GAY coz my closet is closed and always will be closed. boomboom advice is reasonable, gay people give good advice.

Just hang out but not so often as every day or a few times a week. If you hang out once a week, u will be fine. If you see the person too often might lead to a wrong idea that you are interested in him which you're not.

Be straight with homie. Tell him, "Hey, I see you as a bro. I just want friendship. That's that." If he can't handle it, then oh well. If he's sad, then sure you'll feel guilty, but look at it this way- you did him a favor. Now, you can consciously walk away and not feel 'guilty' for leading a person on..

Btw, I don't believe in 'platonic' friendships, because once the guy tells me upfront he has love interests, I baack away.. in that case, it's NOT truly a friendship (when the other person has unrequited romance). Time to say Sayanara.

Don't flatter yourself. He might be feeling sorry for you instead!

well ... it is okay to go out with him ... once in a while friends will ask each other out ... it is fun ... If he shows you signs that he likes you, then you just have to be straight up with him ... like "look here homie ... we should be friends ... I love you as a friend but not like bf and gf " ... simple is that ...

i don't know if you are aware of this concept the kids of today developed for your exact situation. it is where the boy and girl can maintian their friendship where the girl agrees to let boy do whatever he wants to her while they don't call themselves bf and gf. try it out and let us know if it workds. hope this helps.