Don't you tell us you like girls now?

hey there my advise to uthat i think yr mom just want to protect u and she want u too be happy by marry a asian guy....so there for that u can easy to talk tooo and understand each other easier that why she want u to marry a asian man....but for me i think that it okay to marry a white guy b/c yr heart tell u that who u want to be live with and stay with for the rest of yr life....sometime mom and dad did not understand the situration that u been though but it okay give them time and they will understand..if u keep work on it and yr dream will be come true....i hope this will help....and tell yr mom that she it right about everything but this is yr life and u have only one life to live so there for u have to make yr own dream to come true....are all human being no matter if we are blk,white or asian we still need love from everyone.

With your english??? No.... No.. .No... and no..............

need no talk, ya... Lots and lots love making...me love other race long time with happy ending...wao wao wao yippy yo... =)

My bestie got married to a white guy. They have been living together for about 4 years now and they are fine.
At first, it was very hard for her parents to accept him but he melt their hearts.
Can you imagine him bring the heo sua to her parents and kneel on the road ask to marry her. LOL! He did lots of trip to see them. She is very pretty. \

This couple I also know have been married for about 3 years and they have 1 kid. She is viet very pretty and making 80k.
Same to her husband

I am a viet guy thru and thru. I love my birth country and culture even though I am disgusted by some of our people habits. My sisters married caucasian husbands. One is very happy, one is doing okay. What I say is based on my opinion and experience only. Take it with a grain of salt.

My family treats both of my caucasian bro-in-laws differently. We are tolerant of one and love the other. At first my parents, like many Asian parents, are hesitant to accept my bro-in-laws. But, because they love their dauhters, they chose to open their hearts to these guys, even though it is kinda difficult to love one of these guys .

I have known other Asian ladies who married caucasian guys. Some are happy, some not.

Growing up in America, one naturally adapts to the culture to survive. It is so natural for Asian girls and boys to look up to Caucasian boys and girls as their perfect mates because we see Caucasian people in the media all the time being portrayed and held as the standard of beauty. That's why many Asians dye their hair and act white. The predicament here is that while Asian girls are seen as exotic and attractive by white guys, Asian guys are seldom seen as the mate of choice for Caucasian women. This phenomenon has occured in other immigrant cultures as well.

Growing up, I was physically attracted to both blonde and asian women and I know some blonde women are attracted to me. I would not hesitate to date these women. However, I thought naively that it is impossible to have love and spiritual connection between a Viet and white person. Because of this, I advised my sister against marrying a white guy, but did not stop her from following her heart. Now she is happily married and I have came to respect and treat her husband as my brother.

But that's not all. I have in the past several months came to love a Viet lady deeply and, while blinded by my passion, had temporarily convinced her to break up with her former boyfriend. I thought that I can make her love me more than him and leave her miserable relationship behind. She did love me back deeply, but now is in tremendous pain because she is torn between two loves. In my arrogance, I have underestimate her love for her white boyfriend. Recently we decided to break up so she can return to her white boyfriend because the guy is also very depressed and has continued to beg her to come back. It hurted me very much to let her go, and I am still going through my grief. But I think it would be better for her in the end. Isn't it true that if you love someone, you should let them go?

So you see, life has a funny way of humbling a man, making him change his perspective. Don't generalize. There are good white guys and as there are good viet guys. The question is, are you going to be compatible with that person. Love is also about giving. You should be ready to give part of yourself, your identity, your family. It's a give and take. If the white guy loves you, he should know that when he's with you, he should also learn to live with your family (your mother in this case). You have to take it case by case. You have to follow your heart and not be afraid to make mistake. If you make mistake, do not be afraid to get back up and try again. I would recommend just living with him and letting time tells whether your love can endure all challenges life throws at you, as long as you both agree and understand not to bring into this life a child until you know for sure your love is real.

If your mom loves you, she needs to let you try, to let you fail or succeed. Her role is always in the background for support.

Also you should weigh your love for your boyfriend and your love for your family. When you cannot have both, you have to choose the one that is more important to you.

Love has its own logics. Người Việt cũng có nói là con tim có lý lẽ riêng của nó .

Sorry for the long rambling! Good luck!

Oh crap, I forgot to look at the start date of the thread...obviously it must have been irrelevant by now since the thread was started in 2006

Dear, friend
I understand ur problem because I also fell in love with a chinese christan boy U know if riligon is very important so I will not tell him. Listen to your heart. Good luck!

tell mom that u're not virgin anymore, so he is the only one who wants to marry u ... this will work for sure

I know a girl who is half American half Asian. Her dad (American) left her mom when she was little and he did not give her mom a wedding.

Không thành vấn đề. Tương lai của nước mỹ sẽ có nhiều đám cưới giữa hai con trai, hai con gái, vân vân.

My general opinion:
1) Going with your heart, also going with your mind at the same time.
2) Depending - not everyone is bad / good
3) Remember - your parents won't live together with you guys once get married.
4) I understand your situation - but everyone has different circumstances. You've to decided your own base on the situation and what's the most important to you?
5) Each individual person knows their best than anyone elses.
6) You need to talk to your mom - explain to her! Spend more time to get to know your white boyfriend.
7) The fact is, sometimes you just know only when you leave with that person.
8) Thing would change later in life. You / him would be either one dumping each other. You'll never know! You can't just say white bf or any typted of bf will be not nice to our women.
9) The reality is not like what our women want. Man thuong`hay do*~chung'....
10) Tell your mom: " Mom, the person I'll be living together is my husband, not you.
11) Today's different from yesterday and specailly you live here in North America. Things have changed! All the best.

Nước Viẽt Nam không thiẽu gì trai trẽ.
Tại sau cô lây kẽ ngoai bang

To TralaiEmyeu

I think we should look at the culture and where we live and people involved.

If you had born in this country, and grow up in here, then your American friend had same background as your. Same experience and living condition. As londg as family understand your relationship, if not then you might needto convince them with reason, then i think it best to move forward with this American friend. Dont forget a fractor that it was some different between you and him, are how you grow up in Viet Family. You two, need to made minors adjustment hopefully it will be for the best. This relationship will go far but, I do agree with Anathema about the future once you get old! you might expect to be with someone other than him...but life is what you made off, and with help from his head, both of you might face challenge in life.