I have been with my husband for 5 years now, together we have 2 beautiful children. We are like the perfect little family. Over the past few months, I can't stop having this infidelity feeling. I don't know if I still love my husband the way I used to, or if I ever loved him before. I can see that he really loves and cares about me and the family. He worked hard each day taking care of us, he does most of the house work, so I can take a break. He took care of the children very well. I feel very guilty for having these terrible thoughts. Like I want to be with some other guys even if I have never met them people or my previous relation. I would just create random people in my mind and start having relationship with them. I know that all these are in my imagination, but I'm afraid one day I would actually do them. I don't want to ruin my family, but I don't know how to stop my thoughts. Do I have some kind of a mental problem? I have everything that I needed, all the materialistic things, a brand new car, a house etc., and the love of a wonderful husband. But somehow I still feel like there is a void in my life. Maybe I have all that I need but not everything that I want. Please help me. Help me be a better person to my husband, help me to love him more. Love him the way he loves me. Thank you for those replying and for those not making fun of me.

You can help yourself first by asking if you husband think like you

"Like I want to be with some other women even if I have never met them people or my previous relation. I would just create random people in my mind and start having relationship with them".

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If you have time, you need to do volunteer work for some women organization or women protection (something like that), maybe it will help you to realize how lucky you are. Or else, try to help your husband, make yourself busier, so you won't have to think or have unrealistic dream and forget about your current dream life that so many people want to have. Good luck, sis.

two words for you...Damn wife!

I know what you feel..) Well, because your life is so happy and perfect. It also becomes bored for you. It is happening to me too. However, Trying to remember all the good and happey memories when you and your husband are together. Take some vacation times for your own family.

I also think that maybe you didn't really love your husband a lot before then, or you are on mid-life crisis now.

What is the solution.. I don't know.. because I haven't found the solution for myself yet.

Good luck

Help you on what? WHAT do you need help for? The only person that can help you is yourself. Co' gia dinh hanh phuc roi ma con doi hoi nay, hoi no, dung la nguoi xua co noi "Co voi thi doi tien", dung nui nay trong nui no. You betta consider yourself first before make any move, or you want to have a divorce like other family, or mayb u just try to fit in the society? ...WANA B 1 of them??? then go head and do it. Geeezzz girls are troublesome.

EmchonAi,

Have you ever heard people say " Trong cha(n mo*'i bie^'t cha(n co re^.p " Well, we don't know much about her and her family so I don't think that you should said to her like that.

Well, you never been there done that so you don't know what it feels. Life is not simple like you think. Wait for your turn then.

I don't know if this will apply to you but if it is me then I would do the following:

1 - Remember the sparks that made you married the man.
2 - Go on a lunch/dinner date with your husband.
3 - Spend a weekend with only you and him.
4 - Bring the spark back!
5 - Complement and be sentual with each other.

Sometimes when we get to involve with work and family life, we end up using up all the energy to be with your life partner.

Good Luck!

as for your describe, I think your husband loves you but somehow he does not pay attention much (perhaps b/c he's busy w/ 2 kids, tired and stress from work) nor do romantic things to you and make you feel loneliness even you know that he loves you from bottom of your heart.

I think you should talk to your husband about this issue and makes him care for you little more. As you said, he loves you. I'm pretty sure he will help you to get out your bad immagination.

Good luck.

"Maybe I have all that I need but not everything that I want."

If we spend the rest of our life chasing after our "WANT" we will never be happy. Long tham cua ddan ba, khong ddai ddau
I can somewhat relate to what you're thinking.... in the sense that, we feel we have what would be view by others as "Ideal," however, "What's wrong with me, why am I not happy??.. I should be happy!!"
You could be bored, things are too calm and too perfect... I agree with others... keep reminding yourself you're very fortunate and keep yourself busy!

Bunny

I think that you're a good wife. Most of the wives think like you do. Sadly!:(

just a nother bi'tch want to be.

here is my # 1-800-sung-suong , call me. What a đĩ !!

Co cau “gan muc thi den gan den thi sang”. Look into the people you spend most of your time with, parents, in-law, friend…etc. Look at their life style, attitude, behavior and ask yourself the questions? It is a strength or weaking your marriage life?. Are they always tell you all great experience from dating difference man? So happy to be with the greatest man on earth even after their third marriage? Or so happy with their partner sex life. Which part do you miss? When you able to identify the issue. You will begin to feed yourself the positive attitude, by going to church or hand out with difference group of friend who are less fortune/trouble with their marriage. You will find out how lucky you are to be where you are.
OR
Sometimes, even a great marriage, financially secure could cause the couple to feel no room to breath because they spent too much time with each other….everything is a responsibility, the children, the job, the clean up, the cook etc….no relaxation and time for your friend or relative to catch up thing outside the house hold. This will develop the fantasy similar to what you have now. Ask yourself a question? When is the last time just two eat out without the children? Or perhaps go to the park and look at the start? Or go to a vacation? Or hangout with your girl friend? I hope this help.

It does not hurt as long as it is just in your imagination. It actually helps to spice your sex 's life up! Men imagine to sleep with other women all time, but they never actually do it.
It helps.....................I am not not sure about women.

sometime i think some people have too much in life, they dont realise how lucky they are compare to some people, they keep asking for more and more.... when it to stop ????

imagination is oka, but actually wanna to carry out ur imagination action is a big no no no ..... dont do aanything that u think it will hurt ur husband/families .

why not go to library read some books ,do some reaserch, do some activities get u fittness,gym? join the women golf club ? do some graft work if u into it .... Hang out with other mother's u know, share ur thought, feeeling, anxirty, emotional ,thought etc .... sometime spending too much time with the children beside ur husband make ur mind wonder to silly things , that u dont know it unealthy .

Mental problems you probably do not have . But maybe "dewdrops" syndrome ?

Can you trace back to the root of your insecurity, happiness ?

Tại sao trên thé gian nầy còn xót lại nhửng người đàn bà khốn nạn như thê' nầy ? Không còn từ nào để mà xưng hô với loại người nầy . Thua luôn cả xúc vật .
Thứ đàn bà nầy nên đem sang Campuchia để làm gái ******* .... Thay vì các trẻ em ngây thơ vô tội .

Wow, wow, sao Andy dùng những harsh words voi Horriblewife wá vạỷ She đang bị confuse stage cho nên she mới lên đây ask pple for advices mà.

Yt 0 phải là HorribleWife, mà sau khi đọc những lời lẽ of Andy còn thấy bị hurts giùm cho her nữa, huông gì là cô tạ Andy nen uong ly nuoc lạnh để calmdown 1 chút đi nhạ.