Some input for you, Love is for giving but when you & your paretn become a serious marry ... but he is not ready means you don't need to wasting time with him ... Is it him a # 1 in all the man in USA???
Seems like he stil love another girl much. Good luck in a right decision

Seriouslly u a strong gurl.I fell sorry for u when i read your story.U should not be in that kind of relationship,n i'm sure that u r giving to much but did u get back anythings from him.Ur relationship been there for years.But he still not ready to marry u.Did u ask him why??He told you that he already broke up with the other girl.U think is it true???He a selfish man,all the things he did that just for him and he don't even care about u or the other girls feeling.What kind of man is that??actually just call him a lil boy because a Man don't act like that!!!U should get over w/ him,i know is not easy but try to move on w/ ur life,find someone better,who treat u right,who taken good care of u.Hope u go thought this problem soon.Wish u all best

You are right...love sometimes is blind......maybe that is why after found out that he has another gf during the early stage of the relationship, but you still go on with the relationship for many years and now it got to the point it hurt much more than it would if you call it off a few years ago. However, nothing is ever too late, especially you are not married to him or have kids with him yet. I used to be in a relationship with a guy that I didn't know that he already has a wife so for two years I love him so much that I saw him as my future husband and never imagine what my life would be if we break up. However, as soon as I know he already married which he never told me. It hurt...it painful....but I left him...I am still in pain but I never regret my decision...I don't think any guy in this world deserves to have two girls at the same time......

why not? everything is possible right ... you know it, you still take it then live with it ... free will ... he can not force you to love him, it's you who fall in love with him because he fulfills what you dream of as a soulmate.
Your relationship can not last that long if he's a cold heart as you mentioned. He must love you somehow and that is why you hope and believe that he will marry you some day.
Let put his ex on the side, and focus on him for now. He doesn't want to marry you now, it must be a reason behind that. He ddin't want to share with you and ignored it, that means he reluctantly thinks about commitment and probably, he's not ready for marriage yet. There are many reasons you have to find out yourself.
Think about it, you have been with him that long, walked through a tough time, and passed an extremely difficult challenge (his ex g/f). Why not give yourself one more try and set a timeline for him and yourself as well.
Good luck and wish you the best. Remember to share with us a wedding invitation if thing works out.

I think it is too hard for stop seeing him, bcuz when you love him more than he loves u

Why the hell you bring back this 3 year old thread??? I'm pretty sure the girl made her decision by now...LMAO.

Troi troi.. sao the gian con` ng` con gai' kho'` vay
that all i can say

you're probably one of the nicest gals around right? its hard to find someone like you, the guy is more than likely playing you or possibly wanting to find out more about you. most guys won't get themselves committed to a one way road unless they are absolutely certain of what's coming ahead...you're not in his future for the time being. if you really feel the need/pressure to get marry cuz of your parents/friends or whatever, then go find someone else who feels the same way. the bottom line is he is just not ready for that lifelong committment yet..the problem is you, wanting to please your parents or whatever.

hope u'll find your happiness soon.

You are such a sorry-ass, pathetic, insecure loser. Try online dating.

Based on his record, I wouldn't be surprised he has a 3rd for 4th concubine..

Let's be real here. Is this the kind of guy you want to have kids with? The type who walks out and cheats on you after 5, 10, 20 years of marriage??

Find someone honest/sincere.. that is, if the same could be said about the person looking in the mirror. If that were me, and I had *known* he was with another girl, I'd give HIM the dumping and show the *other* girl Respect by at least telling her about what's been going on.

Poor girl.. I feel bad for her. But, she's stupid if she falls for his lies, too. In that case, maybe we shouldn't feel sorry for any parties.

leave him what is this vietnamese guys sound like two timers so bad feel dory for us girls having to live with vietnamese guys with such infidendly issues ............. i feel treatned all the time

Love does not mean that you have to give up your pride, dignity, respect, honor or whatever else that you hold dear. At this point I am not sure if you even have values to uphold.

Please think logically what kind of relationship youll have after you are married. It is obvious that the guy have no respect for you, so it is safe to assume that he'll have no respect for you or your parents after you are married. Can you imagine how that is going to turn out? You['ll end up losing your parents. And when you start to gain weight he won't even think twice about cheating on you. So you might not care about his infidelity but what about AIDS and other types of STDs he might bring home. Lets say that you are so in love with him you are willing to die for love but that's not fair to the children that you might have. Your children are of course of accidental birth becuase i can't imagine people like you having the ability to love anyone else more than yourself.

Cmon, dont try to fool anyone by saying that all your selfish doing is in the name of love. It makes YOU feel good to be with him so you'll do whatever it takes to stay with him. I say pick up the courage or whatever it is that still remains in you and put an end to this relationshuip once and for all. It is easy for you to find a guy. There are alot of My dens (black) out there

He smells your desperation and he milks it. Well, why work hard when everything come so easy. sex, money, love, and your family love. Wow that is a lot for not being married. Tell him how you feel. if not work out move on em

Look yourself in the mirror and say "You are a looser!".
Honestly, leave him asap.

I suggest you break up with him and move on with your life. If he loved you he would want to marry already. Instead he is still looking around waiting to see what come next. He does not love you enough to want to settle down with you! So why waste your life away with someone like that. Move on there are plenty of good man out there. If you don't know anyone I have lots of single guys friends! They are great guy!!


Trish