Originally Posted by feelguilty

Hi all,
Me and my bf had a big fight about getting marriage. I was the one who did most of the talk with anger. He was just quiet and listen. That made me even more upset. Since I couldn't tell what he was thinking. I pointed out all his bad attitude, behavior, etc. He still kept silence. I asked him got to give me the answer, he said that he will call me when he has the answer for me. Then we hung up.

4 days have passed. He hasn't called yet. And when my upset is cool down. I am starting to feel guilty for what I said to him. Should I call him or just wait for his call?

Originally Posted by AnotherGuest

"Talking about marriage" means your guys are at the deep stage of dating.....Don't let small thing screw your life....Call him and say "Sorry" and everything will be back to normal.....Sắp là vợ chồng với nhau rồi thì câu nệ gì một tiếng "Xin lỗi"....Hơn nữa em cũng nghĩ là em đã sai vì lỡ lời mà.....Vợ chồng còn sống đời với nhau, chỉ 1 chút thử thách này thôi mà không qua nỗi thì tương lai sẽ khó sống với nhau lắm.....Hãy dẹp tự ái vặt qua một bên để xây dựng cái gia đình bé nhỏ của mình.....Good luck.....

Originally Posted by feelguilty

We got into big fight because he doesn't want to get marriage. We 've been talking about this for a long time. I have gave him time to think about it but he 's still said he doesn't know what to do. He doesn't want to get marrige but he doesn't want to break up neither. That start all my upset feeling...

Originally Posted by feelguilty

Hi all,
Me and my bf had a big fight about getting marriage. I was the one who did most of the talk with anger. He was just quiet and listen. That made me even more upset. Since I couldn't tell what he was thinking. I pointed out all his bad attitude, behavior, etc. He still kept silence. I asked him got to give me the answer, he said that he will call me when he has the answer for me. Then we hung up.

4 days have passed. He hasn't called yet. And when my upset is cool down. I am starting to feel guilty for what I said to him. Should I call him or just wait for his call?

Originally Posted by Miss Holly

feelguilty:

This is the one time you SHOULD give him some space. Let him think about marriage a little more without you hovering around for an answer. A guy usually is the one who makes the decision to shackle himself. If you keep pestering him, he might think about what he's getting into and if you don't give him the SPACE, his decision might NOT be favorable.

I don't know how long you've known your boyfriend. I don't understand why you didn't talk about this to him in person rather than on the phone. Is this an ONLINE relationship? LONG DISTANT?

Miss Holly

Originally Posted by Miss Holly

feelguilty:

Honestly, your boyfriend already told you he doesn't want to get married. You just weren't listening. Here's a rule of thumb. It's called the:

1. RIGHT PERSON
2. RIGHT PLACE
3. RIGHT TIME

If one meets the RIGHT person at the RIGHT place, but the WRONG time, then most likely the RIGHT person becomes the WRONG person.

If one meets the WRONG person at the WRONG place, but the RIGHT time, there's a good chance the WRONG person becomes the RIGHT person.

TIMING is important. MATURITY & PATIENCE usually will outlast any OBSTACLES.

Why don't you give him some SPACE? A little distance? It might make the heart grow fonder. Just remember, when he does finally contact you, don't hammer too much questions at him, rather at the first open opportunity, see if you can apologize gracefully and let him know that you LOVE him and right now that it's all that matters.

After that, give him some more SPACE. This will help you evaluate if he's the ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with. The method has worked for me many times. Even with my fellow co-workers & employees. Giving them space, allowing them to make their decisions, makes people more productive. You shouldn't have to force anyone. They are NOT your children.

Good luck.

Miss Holly

Originally Posted by Miss Holly

feelguilty:

Honestly, your boyfriend already told you he doesn't want to get married. You just weren't listening. Here's a rule of thumb. It's called the:

1. RIGHT PERSON
2. RIGHT PLACE
3. RIGHT TIME

If one meets the RIGHT person at the RIGHT place, but the WRONG time, then most likely the RIGHT person becomes the WRONG person.

If one meets the WRONG person at the WRONG place, but the RIGHT time, there's a good chance the WRONG person becomes the RIGHT person.

TIMING is important. MATURITY & PATIENCE usually will outlast any OBSTACLES.

Why don't you give him some SPACE? A little distance? It might make the heart grow fonder. Just remember, when he does finally contact you, don't hammer too much questions at him, rather at the first open opportunity, see if you can apologize gracefully and let him know that you LOVE him and right now that it's all that matters.

After that, give him some more SPACE. This will help you evaluate if he's the ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with. The method has worked for me many times. Even with my fellow co-workers & employees. Giving them space, allowing them to make their decisions, makes people more productive. You shouldn't have to force anyone. They are NOT your children.

Good luck.

Miss Holly

Originally Posted by WhtTulip-

FeelGuilty -- Yes you should call him & apologize for the harsh words you used toward him. Do it in a wise way to let him know that you're sorry for your action -- does not mean you're desperately lowering yourself because you want to get married.

4 years is not a long time, yet not a short time either -- your BF and you should already know whether to move forward or break-up. Ask him how much time he needs & space to think it through. If he can't make up his mind then let it go. He's probably not ready to settle down

May I know how old you both are ? and what about your finacial status ?

Originally Posted by feelguilty

Hi all,
Me and my bf had a big fight about getting marriage. I was the one who did most of the talk with anger. He was just quiet and listen. That made me even more upset. Since I couldn't tell what he was thinking. I pointed out all his bad attitude, behavior, etc. He still kept silence. I asked him got to give me the answer, he said that he will call me when he has the answer for me. Then we hung up.

4 days have passed. He hasn't called yet. And when my upset is cool down. I am starting to feel guilty for what I said to him. Should I call him or just wait for his call?

Originally Posted by TueGiac

Your bf is a smart man. Try to get him back. Apology will help.