Originally Posted by Miss Holly

feelguilty:

Honestly, your boyfriend already told you he doesn't want to get married. You just weren't listening. Here's a rule of thumb. It's called the:

1. RIGHT PERSON
2. RIGHT PLACE
3. RIGHT TIME

If one meets the RIGHT person at the RIGHT place, but the WRONG time, then most likely the RIGHT person becomes the WRONG person.

If one meets the WRONG person at the WRONG place, but the RIGHT time, there's a good chance the WRONG person becomes the RIGHT person.

TIMING is important. MATURITY & PATIENCE usually will outlast any OBSTACLES.

Why don't you give him some SPACE? A little distance? It might make the heart grow fonder. Just remember, when he does finally contact you, don't hammer too much questions at him, rather at the first open opportunity, see if you can apologize gracefully and let him know that you LOVE him and right now that it's all that matters.

After that, give him some more SPACE. This will help you evaluate if he's the ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with. The method has worked for me many times. Even with my fellow co-workers & employees. Giving them space, allowing them to make their decisions, makes people more productive. You shouldn't have to force anyone. They are NOT your children.

Good luck.

Miss Holly

Originally Posted by feelguilty

Hi all,
Me and my bf had a big fight about getting marriage. I was the one who did most of the talk with anger. He was just quiet and listen. That made me even more upset. Since I couldn't tell what he was thinking. I pointed out all his bad attitude, behavior, etc. He still kept silence. I asked him got to give me the answer, he said that he will call me when he has the answer for me. Then we hung up.

4 days have passed. He hasn't called yet. And when my upset is cool down. I am starting to feel guilty for what I said to him. Should I call him or just wait for his call?