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JavaMan
Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Số Điểm: 248 |
07-19-2006
, 02:35 PM
I am sorry for you. Let me ask a question, are you supporting him? If yes, he is using you. Personally, I do not think he loves you. He just afraid of loosing his benefits. People who do that are usually those who can not be by themselves (emotionally or finanicially or both). They are willing to do anything to keep what their have until they get another alternative.
I think what he is doing is to buy time for another alternative. It is kind of strange, the responses are less forgiving if it is done by a female. |
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sadlygurl
Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 7 |
07-20-2006
, 10:31 AM
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He has no problem with neither emotional nor financial, cuz he has a family that love and care for him a lots, and he also has a good job too. It is the other way around, he work hard and paying everything in the house with his income, he told me as being my man, he wants to take all of the responsibilities. But thanks a lot for your concerned. |
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sadlygurl
Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 7 |
07-20-2006
, 10:39 AM
Hi all,
First of all, I want to thanks each everyone of you for the great advices, at least i know for sure that i'm not alone, i do have friends who do care for me dearly. I will not do anything stupid to harm my health anymore.  |
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cire
Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Số Điểm: 108 |
07-20-2006
, 11:28 AM
I can tell you for sure 110%. Both of you do not trusted each other any more after this situation. Broken glass is broken glass………Might as well just end the relationship!!!!!!!
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Tphuongph
Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 381 |
07-20-2006
, 12:06 PM
Sometimes .... things are easy to forgive but pretty hard to forget ...
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VKieucotien
Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Số Điểm: 3107 |
07-20-2006
, 01:20 PM
He is only sorry to u because u found out or get caught red hand by u. Dump the looser and get a real Boyfriend who appreciate every min. w/ u…. by reading ur post I m sure u are a good person and can find way better than him. Living w/ u that long he probably had enough of the pie and wants something else. Co’ mo*I’ que^n cu?. or an mit’ hoai` chan’ muo^n’ an lom chom.
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HoangLien
Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Số Điểm: 764 |
07-20-2006
, 03:57 PM
You can change the law, but changing a person's habit/character is almost always impossible. You already know what you should do that is best for you life already in your heart. You just lack the courage to accept it.
Be a model woman, and move on. Best of luck, HL |
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JavaMan
Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Số Điểm: 248 |
07-20-2006
, 10:30 PM
sadlygurl,
I do not know your bf well so only you can make such a judgement. But, always been loved and cared for does not mean that he has no emotional dependency needs. In fact, I personally know someone who always been love and cared for and she admittingly said that she horrified being alone (the unknown). She did the same thing as your bf and try to commit suicide when being dumped. Most cheaters cheats to get emotional or ego rectifications. mountains can be leveled, oceans can be filled, Nations can be changed, but one's personalities can not be changed. Last edited by JavaMan; 07-20-2006 at 10:40 PM.. |
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cafe
Banned Join Date: Aug 2003 Số Điểm: 3606 |
07-21-2006
, 03:29 AM
i dont read ur story since its TOO LONG. but to anser ur question, u gota be less selfish in order to forget and forgive...
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crackruby
Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 26 |
07-26-2006
, 10:52 AM
I am so sorry to hear yr situation. As for me, I can neither forgive nor forget. As you know, we girls are very sensitive. But it happened once, we wont trust anymore. So, the best way is to let him go. You will have another gentlement to take care of you better than him. LET HIM GO.
GOOD LUCK |
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2dongtien
Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Số Điểm: 73 |
07-26-2006
, 12:30 PM
viet cai non gi ma dai` wa' vay. Doc deo het....tom tat chuyen lai dduoc kg.
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ken2000
Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 15 |
07-26-2006
, 01:33 PM
i think you should dump him because same thing happened to me. My ex wife went online and post hes profile to look for girl. I confront her and she denied and asked for forgiveness and i did. But then she cheated on me again. She even wanted a divorce so right now your boyfriend is just buying time so he can find someone and then i am sorry to say this but if he finds that person, he is going to dump you. SO it is better that you dump him now, get it over with then later you will be hurted more.
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jennychen
Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 7 |
07-26-2006
, 08:46 PM
hi sis ur situation samiler with me.i all so dun know how to do like u now........i just want to say if u want to forgive him u need to forget.if u cant forget so u no need to forgive him.i think men hard to chance his personal.dun let some one hurt urself many time.i also decide to broke up with my bf now.i feel more better now.hope u can be stronger.good luck
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Summersun
Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Số Điểm: 219 |
07-27-2006
, 04:19 PM
he moved in with you after several months of dating....and you and him have been dating for the past two years.....does he help you paying bill and all that stuffs? if not which means he is just using you...
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Tinh06
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 63 |
07-27-2006
, 07:08 PM
Listen to your heart if you really love him and if you can forgive and forget then give him a 2nd chance if not then don't hesitate kick him out.
Once the trust is gone it's very hard to build it back. You will live with doubt and fear all time it's not a heathly relationship. Your feeling will not be same as before once you find out that he's cheating and lying to you So be strong and time will help you go through this sad time. Also remember drinking is not helping you solving problem ok As your body is a temple of God. Take care & Good Luck Wish you the best  |
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CoLeNao
Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Số Điểm: 517 |
08-05-2006
, 05:34 PM
Cứ cho him thêm cơ hội để him make up lai his mistake sis. He cũng còn thương sis nên mới năn nỉ sis đó nếu him hết thương sis rồi, sẳn dịp này he sẽ bỏ sis luôn à.
Colenao lo về phần sis, nếu sis bỏ him bây giờ thì sis sẽ buồn lắm, thà cho him thêm một cơ hội nữa, nếu him không biết sửa đổi mà làm vậy nừa thì Colenao bảo đảm cái lần cheating thứ nhì của him, sis sẽ không có feel hurt như lần này. Khi đau nhiều thì lúc đó còn thương nhiều, hết đau thì sẽ hết thương đó sis. Colenao sợ sis bỏ him bây giờ thì sis sẽ rất đau khổ vì chưa chuẩn bị được tin thần và còn tinh cảm đó. |
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raidener
Loyal Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Số Điểm: 1197 |
08-09-2006
, 04:19 PM
kick him in the nuts and if he can stand up straight, then forgive him, he still have balls. if he goes down then, you know you have to let him go. It is God's will.
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Living_Doll
Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Số Điểm: 7 |
08-13-2006
, 04:33 PM
Hi Sis Sadlygurl,
If you have time. Please check your PMs! Living Doll |
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RiceBaby
Diamond Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Số Điểm: 8790 |
09-08-2006
, 03:10 PM
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Once the trust is gone...no matter how hard you tried...you'll always questioned about it.....you are the only one that could decide for yourself...if you decided to walk away ..then you have to be strong...(if you forgive him...there will always be repreats) |
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AndyTx
Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Số Điểm: 2 |
10-31-2006
, 04:09 PM
Hello SadlyGurl,
Well, I dont know what to tell you but if might happen you a little bite. Once time my ex gf she sleeping with my best friend too and i 4 gave her but everything not the same anymore bc i know she a cheated already. He'll do anything at that time so you can 4give him but a few weeks later when everything is normal he'll do again trust me. One month later i caugh my ex gf with another so that's the last time i see her again. The best way for you is to find your self another guy to be honest with you not a lair. Good Luck!  |
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