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Conmeoxoxac
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Old 10-03-2011 , 09:03 PM     Conmeoxoxac est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hello everyone

I don't know if this post can help me or not, but i'm in agony.Now, it's over 3h am , and i can not sleep. I'm still studying for a degree but i can not concentrate on my studying but her.

Couple years ago, i realized i'm more into girls than guys. I like guys also but not the passionate way i feel for girls. So yep, i admit i'm a lesbian ( very feminine - conservative lesbian outside). I'm a good , very sweet girl , I would never do anything to hurt anybody.

Ever since, It's so hard to find someone understand me. From being a normal girl to a lesbian girl ( just inside, i haven't jumped out of the closet yet), it's a major shift to my life. And nobody can imagine what i have to do to cope with whom i have to be. I really dream about having a great family ( husband and wife, having nice children. And i never want my future children involved with a gay mother), but another part of me seemed so weird and stubborn and always urge me to live in my truth-willing ( be with a girl , happy forever).

Co' nhiu nguoi thich minh, and minh ko thich lai va feel empty

Con nguoi minh thich thi` toa`n want to run away from me or want to push me away.

Dang lu'c mi`nh dang phan van ko bi't phai tinh lam sao thi` Last several months , the fate had led me to a wonderful woman. Nguoi nay de thuong lam va cai a'nh mat nguoi do' nhin minh la`m minh rat la thich.

Tui minh nhanh chong tro thanh ban and hau nhu la tinh ban no' den nhanh qua' lam cho minh rat la bat ngo vi tinh cam minh danh cho her hon muc tinh ban rat la nhanh. Minh cung thay la la` sao minh lai co' the thich mot nguoi ma chi moi gap trong vai tuan? tham chi' co' the song het lo`ng cho nguoi nay.

She's a married woman, having children. Tui nay rat hop tinh voi nhau , but i know that she loved her husband , and her feeling for me just o muc ddo tinh ban ( she just considers me as a normal friend.

After she knew i loved her than a normal friend, she seemed so distant from me ( stop calling everyday, stop texting me everyday , tu tu xa la'nh and lanh nhat dan) and it made me feel very sad. We had a good time together , ko co' nhiu , chi di an uong, noi chien, but every time ( du rat la` ngan ngui) gap her, i felt very happy , va thay rat la vui khi gap nguoi na`y. I can do anything to be with her, but i know i'm not the one who can be able to decide.

Now, We ended up contacting a week ago, and now i feel missing her nhiu lam.

Gio minh thay dau nguc wa. I know how to move on , tai vi minh trai wa nhiu chien , cach move on , forget mot nguoi, minh bit, van de la thoi gian va su chiu dung cua minh. Nhung muh neu ai co' the chi cho minh cach nao forget mot nguoi de dang hon nua, xin share dum. Tai vi` minh voi nguoi na`y chac chan la` hong tha`nh roi, vi she rat la dut khoat noi thang voi mi`nh roi, and i respect her decision.

1) First question here: How to forget her quickly?
2 ) Second question: Neu muh forget her duoc roi ( trong tuong lai), what will i do? Go to seek another Mr. Right for me and have a normal family like many people ( re-marry , chong con - But i'm sure i'm not gonna be happy with this life). Or i go to seek a girl ( whatever , chi can duoc song duoc gan gui ben mot nguoi girl ma` minh thay thuong men , song happy la duoc roi, but this life is considered not normal)? which option do i have to choose?)

Any advice welcome !


hix hix

Last edited by Conmeoxoxac; 10-16-2011 at 03:58 PM..
đạibàng
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Old 10-04-2011 , 01:30 AM     đạibàng est dconnect  search   Quote  
Not normal? You talk like you're the only lesbian in the world. Here's the news. You are not that special. Gay people are everywhere.

Go find yourself a lesbian. A LESBIAN. Not a straight girl you want to turn into a lesbian. Sheesh, like men don't have enough competition already.

Imagine, being a straight man, I look for another straight guy and turn him into a girl........Hmm....this example doesn't quite sound right....Forget it.....Stick to a lesbian, that is the point.
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Old 10-04-2011 , 02:06 AM     dulang est dconnect  search   Quote  
[QUOTE=đạibàng;8687321]Not normal? You talk like you're the only lesbian in the world. Here's the news. You are not that special. Gay people are everywhere.

Go find yourself a lesbian. A LESBIAN. Not a straight girl you want to turn into a lesbian. Sheesh, like men don't have enough competition already.

Imagine, being a straight man, I look for another straight guy and turn him into a girl........Hmm....this example doesn't quite sound right....Forget it.....Stick to a lesbian, that is the point.[/QUOTE]

Good job Daibang. He is right!! go with heart and stand up for who you are. Good luck.
tk4ever
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Old 10-04-2011 , 04:34 AM     tk4ever est dconnect  search   Quote  
I totally agree with Daibang....these days homosexuality is very normal...Asian familys are beginning to accept it and tolerate it.

You are who you are, you dont get to choose to be gay or not. You can be in denial and pretend to be straight, but you wouldnt be happy and eventually that gayness would come out.

You should consider yourself lucky to at least discovered that you are a Lesbian before being marry and having children. Because after marriage, there would be too much complication and it involves hurting the husband and kids.

My advice to you is to go out and discover your true self... start dating other lesbians, get a feel for what that type of world is about and see if it's REALLY YOU. If it is Your World then why force yourself to live a life of what people perceive as "NORMAL". Why let people dictate your life when they know nothing about it?
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Old 10-04-2011 , 07:23 AM     HoaiPhi est dconnect  search   Quote  
ConMeo

TU*. Sac' di .. roi em o can phai choose option nao het do hahah


chuc em chon ra con duong tu sac( bang- dao.. sung.. thuoc doc... Treo co? hay lay cay dua/ thot.. qua lo?> tai hahahha)


bye em
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Old 10-04-2011 , 09:16 AM     Younggun007 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Pham lam nothing.....................
Conmeoxoxac
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Old 10-06-2011 , 06:26 PM     Conmeoxoxac est dconnect  search   Quote  
Thank you Daibang and everyone else

it's 1:22 AM now,I can not sleep.

I really miss her .

:(
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Old 10-07-2011 , 02:12 AM     B0ston est dconnect  search   Quote  
Probably go out to gay/lesb bars and make friends? I mean, you don't have to jump into a relationship right away, but that will hopefully occupy the emptiness in your heart right now. That emptiness will keep allowing this straight woman into your thinking and keep you suffering.

To Younggun007, I notice that you keep posing a one-sentence paragraph that makes no sense. You've been doing this to every post. Is that how you score 14843 pts in your profile? Stop being a joker.
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Old 10-07-2011 , 04:49 AM     Younggun007 est dconnect  search   Quote  
[QUOTE=B0ston;8695970]Probably go out to gay/lesb bars and make friends? I mean, you don't have to jump into a relationship right away, but that will hopefully occupy the emptiness in your heart right now. That emptiness will keep allowing this straight woman into your thinking and keep you suffering.

To Younggun007, I notice that you keep posing a one-sentence paragraph that makes no sense. You've been doing this to every post. Is that how you score 14843 pts in your profile? Stop being a joker.[/QUOTE]

Khong phai dau....................................
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Old 10-07-2011 , 04:08 PM     ThenNnow est dconnect  search   Quote  
Nothing wrong from being les/gay these days .......

Just dónt wreck other people family ......tháts all.

Time heals ...
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Old 10-09-2011 , 04:25 AM     Tuyetlanh7 est dconnect  search   Quote  
hihihi..what a funny thread

Couple years ago, my aunt told me that 1 of her sons is gay at 18 or so, I was shocked. His dad was not even want him around the house and even the day he die, he was still can't accept the fact his son is GAY. At least I know my cousin is only date other GAY or Bisex guy, and I guess this is the rule for a GAY's life.

Your wanting to be w/this "Straight" married lady is a BIG NO NO, but I hope you learn your lesson and just limit yourself to GAY lifestyle and or within your GAY surrounding.

I'm sure there're plenty of gay people around you or even around the country. There was even a town for GAY people to live too, why don't you check these places out and/or find someone within that limit of your GAY life.

Before knowing he was gay, my cousin has lots of friends, even myself was very proud of his education and stuff. He would always come to me for whatever things in his mind, except the fact he's gay. Funny until today, when seeing him around, I just can't imagine how he would live his life like this.

I know a few gay people and always think it's just a normal thing, unless my gay cousin exist, and like his dead father, I still can't take it.

good luck w/whatever you want for your life to be.
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Old 10-10-2011 , 07:23 AM     thuytienthom est dconnect  search   Quote  
CMXX,

TT nghi nhung nguoi o day deu co' good advice cho meo` nhu la daibang or tk4ever. Meo nen kiem nguoi co' so thich giong minh de go out and enjoy your life with, dung nen ton thoi gian bend someone from straight to les, lam nhu vay kho^? cho chi'nh minh va` cung khong fair cho nguoi kia. Phan dong thi women thich ban be, thich tro chuyen, thich attention nhung khong co' nghia la ho. les. Meo nen phan biet dau la les va dau la straight de bot dau thuong, dung` co' ra'ng bo+i nguoc dong ma mat suc :) heheh

Vai dong cho meo, hy vong khong gian.

TTT.
Conmeoxoxac
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Old 10-16-2011 , 03:49 PM     Conmeoxoxac est dconnect  search   Quote  
Thank you TTT and others

Mình củng bít là ko nên bẻ 1 người từ straight thành les.

Đây là sơ xót của mình ..

Hôm nay ko bít là mấy tuần rồi mình hông có gặp her, mình củng hông có đếm thời gian nửa

Mình đã dồn đầu óc của mình + thời gian vào việc học, viec lam

Giờ mình đả ko còn muốn ngỉ gì và suy tinh gì thêm.

Có điều, ko hiểu sao sáng chủ nhật nào củng bắt đầu nhớ her lại

Nhớ ánh mắt người đó nhìn mình.

rất là friendly and gần gũi.

Giá chi mình ko tiết lộ thân phận của mình ra, giá như mình cứ tỏ ra là 1 cô gái bình thường với her thì có lẽ hai đứa giờ vẫn la bạn, có khi còn hẹn nhau đi chùa mỗi tuần. Giio minh thay hoi han ve nhung viec vua trai wa . Le ra minh nen im lang and chon chat tat ca nhung cai feeling do' lai thi co' le nhung nam toi minh va her van di chung mot con duong

Tối hôm wa mình lại mơ thấy her, thấy mình và her đi đến một ngôi chùa rất là đẹp, có cá ao nươc xanh trong lam. Gion voi nhau vui lam

Tinh day thi ra chi la giac mo

sigh

Last edited by Conmeoxoxac; 10-16-2011 at 04:14 PM..
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Old 10-18-2011 , 08:01 PM     chensisi est dconnect  search   Quote  
Thanks for the info, I appreciate it.
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Old 10-19-2011 , 04:23 AM     Christian est dconnect  search   Quote  
I personally know a lesbian couple that is Viet. One of the partners was probably just Bi. That was why she gave up the relationship to get marry and live a normal life. She is now happily with 2 adorable children. The other partner was devastated and turned to alcohol that lead to her death :(

You just have to accept that fact that you are born abnormal just like a person who is born blind of deaf. The choice is yours to make to either live a normal life but stay in the closet or live an opened life but lack the normalcy of a traditional family. There are many folks who are less fortunate at birth but they live a very productive and happy life. Good luck!
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Old 10-23-2011 , 03:14 PM     mitviet1 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Regardless of which sex is involved, a broken heart hurts deeply.... I remember my junior/senior in college when I was really in love w/ another girl and when she decided to go with another guy, it was devastating to say the least... but time will DEFINITELY heal all love wounds... so, instead of refrain yourself from life, I would say you want to try to be socialized a bit more with both of the sexes now... but do refrain from 'fantasizing' . If a girl interested in you, you will know it ! (similar to your married friend knowing you are interested in her). And once you get over this 'love hurt' feeling , hopefully you will also find out more about yourself and what you really want and it then make it much easier for you to seek the right venue for your life.... sound like you are still quite young and you should have plenty of time to decide/seek/achieve 'whatever' is best for you... Best wishes !
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Old 11-08-2011 , 10:03 AM     TrQuynhNhu est dconnect  search   Quote  
sis conmeoxoxac mai na`y ra?nh thi` ca(´t nghi?a lesbe konservativ outside la` sao cho tqn biê´t vo*í nhe´ :-):hello:
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Old 11-16-2011 , 12:56 PM     Conmeoxoxac est dconnect  search   Quote  
[QUOTE=TrQuynhNhu;8764946]sis conmeoxoxac mai na`y ra?nh thi` ca(´t nghi?a lesbe konservativ outside la` sao cho tqn biê´t vo*í nhe´ :-):hello:[/QUOTE]

HI Trquyenhnhu

Sorry tai con meo type vang tat

Conservative outside ngia la ngoai mat cua con meo thi nhin rat giong mot co gai rat la truyen thong , ko co uong ruou ko hut thuoc va rat la bit nhuong nhin .. nen ngoai mat kho' ai doan duoc noi long con meo ra sao do. Va cung giong nhu la ben ngoai mat cua conmeo chua bao gio to ra la ung ho les/gay het. Vay nheng

Btw, da vao day roi cho con meo vai loi khuyen di

Tai sao moi ngay conmeo deu nho den her het

Truoc khi di ngu nho mot chuc, di hoc ve lai nho, di lam ve roi cung nho.

tai vi` ca'i nguoi na`y lam minh rat la vui moi khi gap mat. And lam mi`nh cuoi hoai moi khi noi chien, ko nhu nhung nguoi kha'c la`m minh cang thang met moi

thoi gian ranh mot chuc la lai nho , muh conmeo thiet ko co nhiu thoi gian ranh

Gio sap toi le thanksgiving, conmeo co' du dinh la` se send her mot cai message dde chuc her vui ve voi gia dinh va chong con trong ngay le. Ko bit co' nen nhu vay ko nua?

Nhung muh ko bit con meo co' nen nhu vay ko?, ca'i gi` dda buong ra duoc thi` nen dde cho buong .. chu neu send message cho her, her lai nham tuong con meo stalking her , so conmeo rat so she ngi conmeo muon quay roi cuot song von dang rat binh yen cua her

suy ngi nhiu met thiet

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Old 11-17-2011 , 05:08 AM     Newlife10 est dconnect  search   Quote  
Hi Conmeoxoxac,

Doc qua tam su cua ban Newlife cam thay co le ban chua co' mot nguoi Male nao thuong ban that long, nen ban moi co y' nghi lech lac ve gioi tinh thoi, that ra ngay tu khi ban co y nghi voi nguoi cung phai thi phai loai bo y' nghi~ no' ngay lap tuc, 100 lan nghi thi mot 100 lan loai bo~, 1000 lan nghi~ 1000 lan loai bo~, tuc thi cai cam~ giac no se~ tu tu bien mat, Ban ha~y nho rang moi dau kho va hanh phuc tren cuoc doi nay deu xuat pha't tu y' nghi~, neu minh nuoi duong va song voi cai y nghi do' thi tu tu ban se~ bi le^. thuoc vao no' vi` the ban nen control mind nhieu mot chu't ddu*`ng dde^~ no' di lung tung, ban la` Boss of your mind don't let your mind control you.

Newlife da~ tung bi nguoi cu`ng pha'i thuong, do' cung la mot phan do Newlife vui ve va de than thien nen co' le~ lam cho nguoi ta hieu lam.
Chuc Meoconxoxac mau lay lai thang bang trong cuoc song, va loai bo nhung y' tuong lech la.c
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