hi everyone, i have a problem right now and need everyone to share opinion with me what i should do in my situation. thanks!
long story short, i been dating my gf for 2 years and we been fighting about some stupid things and she decided to move out. we still get in touch with each other and our relationship is like on and off. so, she has a job working 6 days a week, and just 4 days ago she told me she has to go to cali to take care something. i asked "what is it" she said "she needs to see a lawyer to sign a divoce paper. she is an student and got married with a guy a cali for a greencard and now the guy has a gf and wants to file a divoce so he can marry to his gf etc, so anyway, i called my gf @ 11:30 (cali time) to see how she is doing, she told me she was out having dinner with her old friends... so when i got home, 30 mins later i texted her asking what date and time she is back so i can pick her up at airport, she didnt answer and i called 3 times she didnt bother calling me. this is kidda weird. i wondered if she was sleeping with someone else? i just booked a ticket this morning and decided to go cali to find out the truth. what should i do when i get to the airport? should i call her out? if i do that she probably hide everyhing before she meet me. i dont want to ask what hotel she is staying because its suspicious. what should i do? pls help!!!!!

I don't think your girlfriend told you the truth.

What are you going to do if in fact she is sleeping with some dude in CA? Breaking up? Your on and off dating is another word of "broken relationship" already.

Cancel your ticket and stay where you are ....save yourself some embarrassments or being label as loser (of course not).

:) :)

it costs me little bit of money but at least i can find the truth.

You guys have an "on and off" relationship. are you guys on or off now? You should give her some room to breath. women don't like their men to sneak/spy on them. have some faith and trust her, if not, you will be one misery buck! :)

It seems like she was sleeping with someone and was not able to answer the phone.

Your "on and off" relationship pretty much self explained.

Sana, she came over to my house and lived with me for a week. so i would consider an "on" relationship. Please tell me how am i suppose to trust her when she didn't answer my phone? wasn't something going on? She should know better when she's in Cali she must keep her phone on at all time no matter what unless she is doing something behind me.

Lovesux :)


Well, if you can't trust her, then don't need to be continue with your relationship. Why don't you ask us, what if something bad had happened to her, that's why she can't answer her phone?.
Your question make me feel that you don't trust her at all. Love base on trust, and honesty, lots of other thing. Just don't fly over there, what is the point right?, relax what is come is come, don't need to worry why she not answering your phone. Ask her when she call, to see what her answer is.
Few weeks ago, my bf did that to me too. When I called, he didn't answer my phone, i was so worry, didn't think about whether if he cheated on me, i trusted him w/ all my heart, because i know there must be something going on, he must be sick or accident, or maybe he is w/ someone (this was just a second thought) ..But yeh, he cheated on me, and yes he had a food poison, and rushed into the hospital, since i m not around, he had someone there to take care of him, it was unconvient for him to text or call me hehehe.;) so what is coem is come, don't ...fly over there and..do such stupid thing, at the end you get nothing out of it, just waste an ticket, save your previous time to do something meaningful.

good Luck :)

Dear Embuonwa,
Cam on nhung y kien dong gop cua ban. 6AM she goi dien lai va noi luc minh goi dien thoai thi she da ngu roi. Truoc nua tieng do minh co goi dien noi chuyen 1 lan, luc do she dang o ngoai duong an toi voi may nguoi ban. Sau do minh goi lai lan nua thi she khong tra loi may. Khong le trong vong nua tieng do she tu ngoai duong ve khach san roi di ngu nhanh vay sao? That su minh da book ticket sang nay roi va hien gio minh van muon di vi neu minh khong di se khong bao gio biet duoc su that. Bo mac moi nguoi tren doi nghi sao nhung minh van muon di. Minh tha biet duoc su that bay gio de minh con move on va cam giac trong long se cam thay nhe nhom hon. Con hon la sau khi she tro lai song voi minh ma trong long luc nao cung co mot cau hoi trong dau la she da lam gi sau lung minh. Minh khong chiu noi cam giac nay dau. Tha mot lan dau roi thoi.

LuvSux:)


Tro*`i, da~ no'i la hong nen di ma, di wua do' sao bie't duoc su that, bo^. toi do' tim kha'ch sa.n she o*? ha? heheh, thie.t la ca'i ti`nh. Dda`n ba` cheated thi ho. he't thuong b.an roi, neu' ho. cheated, mi`nh nghi ba.n da nghi qua' thoi^ ..hihihi, lo*~ she hong phai fux voi her ex, ma with other guys thi sao, sao ban bie't duoc, co' cai goi la 1 night stand. Mi`nh nghi ba.n nen bin`h ti?nh, wua do' roi duoc gi`...ba.n se lam gi khi wua do' ? ne'u mot nguoi da ba` da~ cheat thi ba.n co' lam gi cung khong the giu ho. lai duoc, nen nho' la gia? do'i na`o cung co' ngay` se lo. ra, chi? co' su. that moi khong tim ra duoc thoi..Khi she ve` o lai thi ban tu tu tim hieu sau...Co`n bay gio thi binh tinh de she di choi da~ di, roi ve ti'nh sau :) okay ???

Co`n ne'u di ma ban nghi la wua do 'di choi voi her, thi yes, you can go , but wua do' de ba't wua? tang thi hong nen di ...cha?ng duoc gi dau :) ...Co`n mang phie`n phuc..Vi' du. she tha.t su hong co' gi he't, ba.n se vo tinh lam cho cai relationship cua ba.n ma't di su tin tuong them thoi, neu yeu nguoi ta that su thi phai tin nguoi ta..Du` sau nay bi. gi thi minh cung da lam he't ba?n nang la minh yeu mot nguoi :)

Luvsuck,

the way you talk, you never seem to trust your gf, if she really have changed of heart, there's nothing you can do about it. You should give her some times to think of, the more you push her, the more she will move far away from you. If I was her, I wouldn't wanna pick up your call, the more you call the more make her thinks that you don't trust her. You should give her time to finish up her things, if she comes back to you, then everything should be ok, if NOT then you know the answer.

"Giu*~ nguoi` o? lai.,chu' kg giu~ nguoi` muon' ra di"

Dear EMBUONWA & MR2469,
Ban noi cung co phan dung va minh ton trong y kien va suy nghi cua ban. Nhung ban khong hieu duoc cam giac cua minh bay gio dau vi ban khong trong hoan canh cua minh. Minh khong phai qua do de danh ghen hay gay phien phuc gi ca. Minh chi muon xuat hien bat ngo, va muon duoc ben canh she trong khoang thoi gian she ben do giai quyet cong viec ma thoi. Con neu nhu she khong muon gap minh va co thai do voi minh luc do minh se biet ro cau tra loi. Doi khi khong can thiet phai bat qua tang moi co the biet duoc su that. chi can cach cu xu cu she doi voi minh thi cung du hieu roi. Chac co le ban nghi minh la thang ngoc, nhung minh mac ke the gian nay nghi sao ve minh, mien sao minh cam thay du'ng thi minh bat chap tat ca....mong ban hieu

luvsucks82

If i was you and from what you wrote, there is no point of going to CA. See if you can call airline to see if you can get a voucher for future flights. First off, you yourself stated that it is on-off relationship, that itself is very IFFY and that is written by you. Maybe you are envious of what she is doing because she is doing something that you are not ready for her to do, moving on. 2nd, you will make a fool of yourself whether she is cheating on you or not. You will look like a child checking up on her if she is not cheating, if she is, what are you going to do? Make a commotion about it with her and him? Either way, you LOSE. So man up...let her explain herself when she gets back from her stay.

MRMRII

Minh muon xuat hien bat ngo vi muon thu xem phan ung cua she the nao, neu she biet minh qua ben do va to ra vui ve khi gap minh thi chuyen khong la van de gi, con neu nhu she to ve khong vui thi do la dau hieu cho minh biet something is going on...sau do minh se tu hieu minh phai nen lam gi...con nguoi minh co tanh to mo..i want to find out the truth even though it hurts. Noi tom lai cu cho day la mot chuyen du lich binh thuong thoi.

Hi LuvSucks..

Anh nghi em nen di.. it nhat giong em noi biet de ? minh o nghi ngo nguoi ban gai minh co cheat hay khong..
neu co thi minh cung quang minh chinh'dai bo? her ma o cam giac an nan hay toi loi?

anh ung ho em di cali. lam ro moi viec moi la dan ong thuc su.. lam nguoi o nen len lut' hay hen nhac hay so su that phoi bay truoc mat. minh phai doi dau^- voi su that. cung giong nhu em noi dung nghe mieng the gian.. voi lai em da mua ve roi coi nhu mot chuyen du lich di nha...'

di choi vui ve

HoaiPhi,

khoang 3 tieng nua la em len may bay, su ung ho ve mat tinh than giua dan ong voi nhau em that su cam dong va cam on anh rat nhieu. Em cung hy vong chuyen di lan nay se lam sang to moi chuyen...

LuvSucks

Anh muon nhac nho em mot chuyen..

Cho du su that ra sao cung nen binh tinh? dung nong nay? hay chuoi boi ( chi lam mat gia tri ban than minh thoi) dung lam ra chuyen kho dai.. nha.. mot khi dan ba da? bo di roi thi em o the nao- giu chan duoc ho. dau...

chuc em gap may man' va co mot chuyen du lich nhu y

HoaiPhi,

Anh yen tam, tuy em rat nong tanh nhung dac biet chuyen nay em se binh tinh khong de minh lam ra nhung chuyen kho dai de roi lam mat di gia tri minh dau. Truoc khi em quyet dinh mua ve sang cali, em cung da tam su chuyen nay voi nguoi than trong gia dinh em o VN va 1 nguoi ban than. Anh la nguoi thu 3 ung ho em di cali. Mot lan nua em xin cam on anh!

I have to agree with some advices from others that have already given to you.

If you can feel something going on and your radar is telling you that she is not truthful to you then walk away the relationship. However, it easy to do for some and probably not to you and I can understand that. If you ever find where she is at and be able to see all the wrongful actions that she is conducting then take a photo, and leave quietly, and End the relationship. :hug

I certainly hope you will find some one kind and faithful to you in the future luvsucks82

thank you for your advice. well the first thing i do when i arrive at the airport is call her and let her know im there to see how she reacts. then i will ask her i i can stay with her at the hotel where she is at and if she refuses for whatever reason, that i can tell something is going on. when she knows im there and she would get rid of all evidence at her hotel before she can come to see me. for me to find evidence is kidda hard