i been with this girl for 20 year, my high school sweet heart, we got married and have a son he is six year old, she do nail and i work as a corp guy, i caught her one time cheating on me and with her old boss, they we eating lunch and she accidently called me on her phone but she didnt know i heard everything, i drove up to her shop where she work and check on her, i didnt see her, she was next door over eating lunch. i waited for her to get home from work to confront her and she deny everything, and i saw her phone bill she talked to him at least 4hour a day and i say what the fcuk how could she lie to me, it so funny when i take my son to school in the morning, she waited for me to leave the house so she can call him, when i get home she lock the middle the lock, when she heard the door lock sound she turn off the phone right away. i confront her she start to b.s with me, i say okay i will let it go and she still deny it, i let it go because i love my son, after a month or two she went back to her old habit. i let this go for two year and it still happen again and i act like it nothing, it was to a point i cant take it anymore, she went out and i lie to me that she went out with her friend, i like whatever i go with the flow. she wanted to go to vietnam and i say okay, guess what she went to vietnam with this guy and i called her she never pickup the phone, i stayed home to take care of my son for one month, when she get home i asked her who did u go with, she say her female friend, she swear on my son, that is so wrong and how the hell u swear on your son life, that is sad, people just dont care of your kid, it sad, anyway i say i have proof dont lie to me anymore, so i got mad i left the house for one week and then i came back i say it over, i went to another state to live and then i move back because of my son, it a broken trust, now i dont feel the same anymore, my love for her is gone. the sad part is that she cheated on me with a guy close to her dad age.

Damn I hate a cheater. If that was me, I would probably give her a good beating, then dump her sorry ass. for good.

It's kind and patient of you to let it go a few times because of your son and for you son you've tried to keep a family together.
You simply left and not making the situation worse is the best way to go. i guess you deserve to have your son and let her have her life with that older man she wanted.
few years from now she would regret her decision and beging you/son to forgive her mistake.
good luck in the near future and take care

once is cheater...always a cheater....good luck bro!

@neverfair,

I think iamamyin408 is absolutely right when he said:"You simply left and not making the situation worse is the best way to go. i guess you deserve to have your son and let her have her life with that older man she wanted."

You are the one who deserve to have your son live with you, if you can prove to the Judge your wife has been unfaithful to you.

Good luck and all the best!
:innocent:

I am new to this forums.......

there is nothing either one of the Vietfuners can say right now to comfort you. Why she does what she does is only she knows. she belief that she can lie her ways out of things and instead trying to solve the problem she had within by discussing with you but she chose the other way and that is cheating her way out of it. Living with someone is very hard but living with a lair is a lot harder. I don't know how you did it, you probably have a big heart that forgive easy. What is going through your mind now is probably crazier than one can describe but at least you still have your kid to look after. Trust is not about trusting your partner doing right or wrong, it is the function of how much you trust yourself when she cheated on you. Trust yourself that you can stand tall and be strong to support your son, but most and farmost, support yourself. Remember, you can't give what you don't have. No matter what, you son will look upon you for decision making, way to live a better life, school, etc... You can't give up everything for something that you can't control. You can curse, hit, throw things, screaming, etc... but that will not change back. Nothing worst than feeling betrayal by a 20 years partner but at least you are not living with her for another 20 or 60 years. It is not time to tell yourself that "I should, would or could" do certain thing, it is time to tell yourself that " I got to get my head up look forward because if I look behind my back I might stip and fall again" . Life is a bit'ch and it always will be so prepair yourself mentally and phisically so you can fight back when bad things strike you again.

Maybe confront w her one more time and straight thing out. Have u asked her what does she want ? maybe there is something that we don't know...yet.

Sometimes life is never fair but in your case you should change your nick to doormat

She is looking for someone to spoiling her. Feeling spoiled usually give a person more happiness in life that she/he would forget about their own virtues. You have been either too easy or too careless about your life, which initiates her to fall into this awful path, and in this case cheating (looking for spoil) has become her habits. In addition, i believe she is somehow smarter and clever than you. She admires at the old man who she has been dating bc she feels more comfortable around him for his experience in life and may possibly be his intelligence. does not matter how much you confront her, She will go back to her old fantasy (cheating) life sooner or later. Leave her if you can; otherwise, u have to train yourself to be more clever in life which is not an easy thing to do. Good luck.

Hi Neverfair:

So sorry to hear your sad, so sad story..
Even you said your love is gone, not the same as it was before... but I think you still - at least - so angry, depress as you was betrayed. That's still a chance, as it somehow there's something still exist - of course, it's not love, but the love influence or some kind of "love influence" still remain.

What I would do if i was you :
.Give her 1 LAST chance. I means 1 single last chance.
.Sit down and talk to her. let her know ALL what you know, beleive and - more than that: You forgive her as you and her has been loved for a long long time, Love has rooted deeply in your blood.
.Let her know the impact of the broken love will affect the life of you both kid. How hard has he to deal with when he 's growing up.

If she does not care whatever you offer, then you would have no choice : get out of her life. No cure for that kind of woman.

Calm and control yourself my friend.
In life, something or sometimes - lot of things - we want or expected to have. We don't

Be brave

***MTDY***

Bro, you have a big heart.
If I were you, I don't need to ask her or hear all the b.s lie.
Just free her and take your son with you.